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|Thu, 03-27-2003 - 3:17pm|
I am in a verbally abusive marriage. I have been married for 7 years and have 3 kids. He yells and screams at me in front of them even thought I asked him not to repeatedly. I am seeing a counselor one on one(her suggestion) b/c believe me he has tons on advice he'd like to give her. He believes all of our problems stem around my depression. He says I've had it the whole time he's known me, I haven't recognized it until about a year ago after I lost my father. Our arguing and fighting has only fueled it. My counselor suggests me getting my depression under control before I make any decisions on leaving. I'm on medication and have been for a year. I could tell a difference at first but I don't believe it's worked for me in a long time. She suggested adding something to it to help w/the anxiety as well. I just worry that things are not going to get any better in this environment. She thinks I'm not strong enough to make any decisions at this point. I'm confused on why I'm not strong enough? I know me and my kids are in an unhealthy relationship, so what's the hard part? I asked her what kind of help was available for him and she said maybe none b/c this is a pattern that has been going on a long time(for generations). So basically things will never change???