conquering fear and loneliness

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conquering fear and loneliness
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Wed, 02-15-2012 - 11:30pm

any tips on combatting loneliness ? I have not gone back..but I am not sure how long I can be on my own..it is hard to say this..but living without my D half time, not having family around..(friends too busy)..anyway..that is what makes me sort of emotionally dependent.

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Wed, 02-15-2012 - 11:46pm

We, as mothers, forget our kids are stronger than we give them credit for...we see them vulnerable to the worlds evils and forget we have trained them and given them the tools to survive....

As for the loneliness....I have one client who loves animals, particularly dogs, that I recommended she get a new pet...she recently had to put down her beloved dog so I recommended a cat since she also loves cats...her husband was going to jail and she was in an extremely fragile state....she took my suggestions, and got her a small cat...this cat has provided her with company and companionship, has her laughing at her antics and snuggles my client when my client is sad....when my client's dad was going through a rough spell he would come over and the cat would entertain the dad and get him laughing and would snuggle in his lap when laughing time was done for the evening....

I realize not everyone likes cats, and some are truly allergic, but I am a true believer in pet therapy....If getting a pet is not an option, I might suggest you locate the nearest humane shelter, Max fund shelter, or even dog pound and volunteer regularly there to love the animals as they wait for their forever home....

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Thu, 02-16-2012 - 10:07am

I don't know the answer to this, but I just wanted to respond to let you know you're not alone w/ these feelings. I think the loneliness is the biggest battle and am looking for the answers too. In my case, I am so conditioned to just sit and be alone when he's not around, that I don't have any idea how to reach out. I agree with the pet idea, they are so intuitive and they do help...I'm sorry I don't have anything useful to add, since we're in the same boat, but when I'm at a point where I feel like I'm just going to explode, I've started posting. Some posts are written w/ tears streaming down my face and take a while to finish because I'm literally breaking down as I type, but it helps..especially when I get a response. Just a thought.

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Thu, 02-16-2012 - 11:17am
Sometimes just letting someone know they are not alone is enough. I have a cat or two I will ship out to whoever wants the fat cats. Lol

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Thu, 02-16-2012 - 1:36pm

my rental doesn't allow dogs...but they do allow cats. I was holding out since I do have one in the other house..that I know I am going to inherit sooner or later. But you are right..if I can't get that one, I will get another one in the next couple of months. I do volunteer at the local spca, but it sort of makes me depressed as there are so many that can't be saved. I would really love a dog that I can walk around..but this place doesn't allow it..but it is in my future plans...all depends how everything pans out in the next few months. But thanks..I think I need to focus on getting the one that is there. I was still taking care of it and it was traveling with dd, but she doesnt take care of it. So yes, I guess that decides it. I will just get that one home.

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Tue, 02-21-2012 - 10:44am

Hi Winter, have you gone and retrieved your kitty yet?

Mama Harmony