consequence of speaking up...
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|Thu, 01-06-2011 - 12:27pm|
Have any of you heard the phrase..she must be letting that happen..so he continues to keep his bad behavior !
Why can't she speak up and assert herself?
Well..yesterday was a stark reminder. First he wanted me to come right home after work. Complained through out the day that he has been busy washing and doing chores (which I didn't ask for him to do..it could have waited till weekend..). So obviously he was in irritable mood. I was tired and he has me doing chores after I come back..basically being bossy and ordering me around. I finally said..I do not want to be talked to that way. He then turned me around..and very aggressively started to say..how dare..(in a v loud voice) and said..'what I mean..'..and 'lets fight it out..'. I got scared and backed off and left...Then this morning..same aggressive verbal retorts to anything even if I say..oh..
Anyway..as I was laying in bed last night..I realize again and again..this is what I have to face..if I am not ready to take a step for next 3 years. I thought to myself if it wasn't for DD..I would be getting my personal stuff out this morning (as I write) and just leave..I dont have to put up with his bullying, bossy, irritable ways..
Then I think of DD and what will I do if she plain refuses to comply...I am all twisted again..thanks for reading.