Could you ever help one of your abusers?
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|Mon, 07-18-2011 - 11:55pm|
Would it make a difference who the abuser was? I know we have one poster who helped out her abuser and I remember thinking there is no way I ever would. I still don't think I would help my ex husband but my mother on the other hand is a different story. I have a friend who considered taking in her abusive ex since he could no longer abuser her and she loved him once and he is the father of two of her children.
I am torn on helping my mother but I am not asking for advice (or criticism) for doing so. I am going to keep trying to help even though I am conflicted about doing so. She has no one else and is in bad shape right now. I don't know if she will ever recover and be able to live alone (no I would never take her in and made that clear to the hospital and that I want her placed in assisted living). It is just a bit quiet around here and I thought this would make an interesting topic.
A little back ground about my mother. She is an emotional abuser and it mainly started after I moved out. She made some bad choices that effected me before that but most of her abuse started after I moved out. We have gone months without talking more then once over the way she treats me but something bad would happen to her and I would get sucked back in. I managed to not let the last couple of tragedies suck me in but right now she has no one else and she is my mother I can't not help her.