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| Fri, 07-23-2004 - 12:02am |
He agreed to go to counseling with me (marriage counseling). I know that you all have cautioned against this. In my heart I can't leave without at least trying it, for my kids' sake. I know that he would never go to an abuse counselor himself, because he will not admit that what he does is wrong...he says that I make him do it. (mostly emotional abuse, very slightly physical). He wants to go to a counselor so that they can help him work on his problems and they can help me work on my problems, so we can solve this. Although I am not without faults, I see his problem looming above all else in severity, and he sees these situations as normal marriage difficulties.
Who has gone to marriage counseling? What should I expect? I am so afraid that they will make each of us do something to make things better, compromise, blah blah blah. I cannot even stand to look at him, so how can I lovingly try to make this work until he can commit to change, and maybe not even then.
I also am so bad at explaining things, I lose track of what I'm saying (never would make a good lawyer!). He is very good at debating, and he is very good at twisting my words around, and distorting everything...I'm afraid they will tell me to stop nagging him so that he will not lose his temper and then he will say "SEE?"
I could use some advice, if anyone has been in this situation! Thanks.

Just please be very careful attempting this.
CL-Blueliner4