counseling problem/false allegation
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counseling problem/false allegation
| Thu, 05-12-2005 - 8:57am |
I have an 11 year old, and I've been taking her to DV counseling for 1 year. I spanked her hand two times and it left a redness on the hand. It was reported by one of the DV counsel's to the state as a bruise on the hand two weeks later. I took her to the doctor the next day for something else totally unrelated, and he did not notice any bruise, and we are talking about an alleged bruise on the hand, an unusual place for a bruise and one that would be noticed with a complete physical exam by a doctor-and she did have a complete physical exam. She also saw her other counselor two days later after the incident as well as her dentist the next day as well as teachers,etc. and none of these people saw any bruise. I talked to the counselor that reported it and she's convinced she saw a bruise, despite the fact that she didn't report it for two weeks and that's plenty of time for your memory to become distorted, despite all these other people that didn't see a bruise and despite my daughter who says she never had a bruise just redness to where I slapped her hand. The child protective worker never saw a bruise of course, but I'm not sure that helps since it was two weeks later and that's plenty of time for a bruise to heal.The first counselor actually broke the law if she claims I bruised my kid and she didn't report it for two weeks, two weeks is plenty of time for serious harm to come to a kid from a truly dangerous parent,and she is totally negligent for waiting two weeks. If she reported it immediately, she'd be shown to be mistaken since in my state they must investigate within 24 hours and bruises don't heal that fast, and since there was no bruise, I'd be cleared, had she did her job in a proper way.I've gotten legal advice, I've been told nothing will happen, but I will fight if something does, because I have spanked my children and I have never left a bruise on any of them.It makes me so mad to have false things said about me. I should have learned my lesson, this agency looks for things to be wrong. They told me I had my daughter doing too much around the house and helping with her siblings, when I talked to people IRL and on the 10/11 yr old board at ivillage and what I was asking her to do was the same as everyone else and less than some. Then they also suggested she needed medication, when her other counselor and plus a visit to a psychologist said she didn't. I have a pretty good idea of what to do, but I just wanted some feedback. Would anybody go back to that DV agency if you were in my situation?

Hi -
To be perfectly honest with you, I'm not quite sure this is the board you should be posting on.
CL-Blueliner4
Thanks for the clarification:
IMO, and this is just me, I wouldn't return to that particular place.
CL-Blueliner4