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counseling question
| Wed, 02-09-2005 - 9:17am |
I take me daughter to DV counseling, but they require that if the child gets counseling then the parent gets counseling too. I go to group counseling. From what I see, most of the women there are going for themselves(meaning they actually like the counseling) as well as for their kids. I think the women that don't want counseling don't take their kids either. I think this may hurt kids in a way because I hate counseling but I stick through it for my daughter. But I don't see anybody in the same situation. So in a way you could say the whole family needs counseling but in another way more kids would actually be getting help if mom weren't required to go. An example, some one said her eight year old was suicidal. She has destroyed things as well as hurt herself. This woman is still with her husband. I was so mad just to be there. The child is getting worse and worse because the child is in a horrible enviroment. Do we wait for the child to kill herself? Exactly what is she waiting for? It may sound selfish but my main problem is I don't want to listen to this crap. I would appreciate any feedback on this if some one has an opinion. Also, to those who have been through DV counseling, did they require you to attend if your child was? Before we moved we went to another DV agency and they wouldn't even let the kids into counseling if the parents were still together. They said it put the child in danger. This place does allow children in counseling if the parents are together. So are they putting children in danger? I just think they make up rules with no basis in fact.

i only ask becasue my daughter is in it now to here i do not have to go my self
she is being abused buy a boy friend i would love to go my self as to fined out the best whay to help her.as my hubby wants me to let them stay together and her to work it out on her owen and i just can not be ok with her dateing him she is only 16 this is her first real boy friend and i know she thinks she loves him but in time she will know it was not love at all.and part of me thinks may be she is wanting me to stope hermy hubby is trying so hard to make me think i am worgn for trying to end it with these 2 even even said he was leaveing if i tryed to step in it to me it be nice to know wach whay is the best to handle it if other thank i am righting in stoping it for her i will be ok loseing hubby over it as my kids mean more to me than any one
other than this me a hubby have a great relsion ship.
Hope, i think you were the person here or on another board, asking me about the DV counseling either myself of my dd is getting? Was it you>
Anyway, it would be VERY hard for me to sit in a group cousneling session w/ someone who's dd is in that situation, AND the woman is not taking her OUT of it. I was a psyc RN in an inpatient childrens psyc hositpal for a long time, & i saw so many situations that began like this ... & ended as in inpatient. Or worse. :(
For us, dd's cousneling is w/ the DV childrens advocate. I met w/ her once on her own, & dd will meet w/ her, starting tomorow - alone, to evaluate what she needs. I myself am in therapy, as i have been, w/ a very good strong therapist. I coudlnt make it w/o having someone to bounce all this stuff off of. I strongly recommend any & all cousneling that is avaliable to the whole family. R~
I can tell you on a personal experience level,...here where I work at,....the counselors here they each have their own unique way of how they do the sessions.
Hey hope -
The more I hear about this "counseling" they've got set up, it makes me wonder if maybe your daughter isn't getting appropriate counseling if it's the same place.
CL-Blueliner4
From what you told me before, this sounds more like a class than counseling.
CL-Blueliner4