court case

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-24-2004
court case
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Mon, 01-17-2005 - 9:24am
My xh has been fighting me in the courts for 5 years now trying to get out of paying child support. I have been through heck with this man. He was abusive in our marriage, I have had restraining orders, I have been torchered mentally by him and his family, he has abused my daughter, I could go on and on. We had to go to court last week and
I just found out that he got everything. I will get no more child support, I do not get to claim my kids on my taxes, I have to reimburse him for any out of pocket insurance claims...
How am I going to go on? I want to die. This man has done nothing but ruin my life.
Somebody, please help me.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Mon, 01-17-2005 - 12:21pm
Your post is very confusing indeed. What do you mean, he gets everything? Do you have custody of the children or does he? I would think that if you do, then it is a federal law that he be required to pay some support, unless he is disabled...Also, if you have the kids, then you are entitled to claim them on your taxes. What state do you live in? I can't believe that the judge would even entertain these thoughts, let alone enforce them!!! God Bless YOU and your kids and good luck!
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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-24-2004
Mon, 01-17-2005 - 2:01pm
I am sorry it is so confusing. I have been through so much mental abuse from my xh some days I just do not know which end is up. I just want to break free from all this and I can't.
This court case has been dragging on and I could not afford a lawyer anymore so I tried (with no luck) to represent myself. My xh has money and he hired a lawyer that was just vicious towards me. Somehow, this man convinced the judge that he has the kids more time than me (we have shared parenting) and the judge ruled in his favor.
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Registered: 06-26-2004
Tue, 01-18-2005 - 11:28am
You sound like you're in a lot of pain. My ex has "run me over" a few times in court, even without a lawyer, he managed to get the kids 50% of the time for a while and didn't have to pay me anything. I've had to bring him back several times since then and the judge is finally getting to see through him. I have my kids about 70% of the time now and we are going back to court again on the 31st to straighten out some other things. In time things will turn around for you. If you ever want to talk, you can IM me through yahoo instant messenger at ortho_nurse2003, I'm always logged in.