Court Today

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Registered: 10-09-2009
Court Today
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Wed, 11-17-2010 - 12:34am

Well. I had my court today for the full portection order. He showed up :smileysad: which was unexpected. I got the order(yay) only he CAN contact me about the kids :smileymad: Which Im sure he will abuse. Judge didnt do anything about the 5emails from him. I have to apply for child support and full custody etc. Well I got resources to get a lawyer,cell phone and such. Hopefully I will get full sole and legal custody and only supervised visits monthly. i wont hold my breath on the monthly visits it will be more often im sure. I also got a card for a therapist for my son YAY! She is highly reccomended and here in town.




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Registered: 09-06-2007
Wed, 11-17-2010 - 11:48am

Great progress!!

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Registered: 01-04-2000
Wed, 11-17-2010 - 12:14pm

When he calls regarding the kids, keep it about the kids...Yes he will probably try to manipulate into other conversations...simply dont respond and take the conversation back to the kids, or if you are done talking about the kids you can say "that was in violation of the PO I am hanging up now" and then hang up...a few times of you not letting him manipulate or abuse the contact regarding the kids he hopefully will "get it" and realize that will not work...however, keep track of every time he violates the po and report them so they are on official record. Then maybe when you do have your custody hearing you can show that he cannot restrain himself to comply with the protection order and perhaps that will benefit you...check with your lawyer about exactly what the boundaries are and the laws of your state so you can maintain being compliant and keeping your own nose clean while he messes up his own stuff.

Congratulations with being able to go the full distance and get the protection order, now be strong and enforce it to the max.

Kat

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Registered: 02-28-2001
Wed, 11-17-2010 - 7:03pm
Also to be considered: conduct all communication regarding the children via email. that way there's no way to try to engage regarding other things AND everything is in writing. That way you have total control of what you respond to and you don't even have to talk to him. Written communication erases all confusion and misinterpretation.

Mama Harmony