Court Today-Round 2
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| Mon, 12-05-2005 - 10:05pm |
So today, we had round 2 with the vistation issue to deal with. The ex wanted unsupervised visitation with no limits. I requested the supervision be continued at the supervised center until his probation was over in May. When the probation is over, I wanted it still to remain at a neutral 3rd party location with a supervisor present. I got the following:
Visitation on Friday 6:30-8:30
Visitation on Sunday 6-8
To be supervised by his friend's mom
At the ex's girlfriend's house
He is to stay there with the baby
Transferred will still be supervised at the center
The ex has to take anger management classes
The ex has to take part in a father's support group to learn to connect with his child
Oh and the whole thing gets reviewed in 60 days
There is to be a log book in the diaper bag where I put down the last diaper change, feeding and any bruises or bumps. The ex has to do the same when the baby leaves, but considering how he can barely write I know who will be filling this out.
I am not happy. I feel like I have no say and sometimes it's hard to play with the baby cause I am scared to get close only to have the ex take away my sole custody. I knew today that I would have to compromise, but this was not what I anticipated. I was unable to keep the ex's nutso girlfriend away from the baby. Even after she made statements that she wants my son and after she took my original baby furniture and made a nursery in her home just for the baby. And they wanted the visitation to be from 6 on Fridays until 8, but I told them since I was the one who actually had a job there was no way I could leave work go across town in traffic load the baby and then back into town in 1 hour. I spent two hours talking to Dakota's attorney that was appointed by the court and basically it all came down to what she said. Apparently, in the state of Maryland unless the ex physically hurts the baby I cannot keep the visitation supervised for much longer.
Why does it not matter that he wanted to kill me while I was pregnant. That he physically assaulted me while I was pregnant and also said when I told him not to yell that the baby could hear even though he was in utero that I talked that the baby was a real person. I that if I put up too much of a fight or too much of anything then I am labeled a vengeful exwife jealose over his girlfriend and determined to exclude him from my son's life. I wish now I would have packed us up and left the state. Disappeared while he didn't want the baby.
Sorry, I always try to be up when I post here, but today I just can't and to top if off this all starts this Friday and my grandmother who I live with is so mad at me and the situation that she is ignoring me and says I should have done this or that. I can't win.
