court tommorrow need advise and support

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Registered: 05-03-2003
court tommorrow need advise and support
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Wed, 04-14-2004 - 10:11am
Hi, I am so very very nervous about tommorrow (court day). I am afraid to see him. All I can think about is going to court and seeing him there and what I will do. He knows my weaknesses and knows exacltly what buttons to push on me. I have not had contact in over a week know and I really wanted to stay that way so that I can become strong again. The sad thing is that I have to because we have a son. I am also still debating the permenant restraining order. If I do this I will have to accept that it is over and for some reason my head keeps telling me it isn't. I am thinking that he will come home and everything would be fine again. I thought that he has not contacted me because he has a new girlfriend and has moved on. I am not sure though. Did he really move on or is he waiting for the temp restraining order to be dropped to start the cycle again. I had went and saw a lawyer yesterday. He said to get the permenant for right know and if you feel safe later on you can always drop it. The lawyer thinks that x has as serious problem because he does not see fault in what he did and he truly believes that the x thinks he can say and do as he pleases no matter what.

Yesterday he contacted my neighbor and asked how my house was and what was going on. He started to say he has court tommorrow and would like to get my son this weekend. Do you think that he is just waiting for thi restraining order to be dropped to come around again? I do not know what to do right know or how to think. I am so nervouse about seeing him there tommorrow. What do I do?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 04-14-2004 - 11:30am
I had a court date last week, our first, and I did surprisingly well. I just didn't look him straight in the eye. He did have new clothes on (he usually dresses like a hobo), but I personally thought he looked rough - that helped me, also. Just don't look him straight in the eye. In my case, the lawyers did most of the talking, so that helped.

Remember he is probably nervous, too. Just reach in and find some of your self-confidence and pride he's tried to strip away from you. You will do fine.

Hugs,

Jackie

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-12-2003
Wed, 04-14-2004 - 1:40pm

YES, HE IS WAITING FOR THE RESTRAINING ORDER TO BE DROPPED.

CL-Blueliner4