Court tomorrow - feeling a bit edgy

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Court tomorrow - feeling a bit edgy
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Tue, 09-14-2004 - 2:25am
Wow, there are so many new "faces" here. I've been very absent since I resigned my post here, but between work and grad school and the girls, there hasn't been much "me" time lately. I'll try to do better!

Well, this is it. I have court tomorrow at 10:30am Arizona time. Eric has already said he won't be there - isn't invited, in fact, since he didn't file a response to the divorce. My mom took off work and is going with me for support. I'm a bit wigged out tonight. Not worried or nervous. Anxious, I think. Not sure why. Maybe it's just the thought that it's finally going to be over. I've been out for over 16 months, and the divorce has taken 11 months from filing to hearing. Thank goodness it's finally here!

Nothing much has changed - no child support since January, he blames me for all the world's ills, Dani isn't visiting him at all still (but she is headed to college in January - 8 months early!), Hannah does her every-third-week visit and then is a terror for several days before and after. Hannah goes into counseling in October. He switched the girls' insurance, so she can't start until then. She actually punched me a couple of weeks ago when she didn't get her way. That was tough to deal with.

But there is a bright spot. He is monumentally unhappy at work because they don't treat him like the king he thinks he is so he is looking for work. Out of town! Send prayers and positive vibes that he gets something very good very far away! He used to live in Alaska and liked it quite a bit. That wouldn't be too far. Ha! Just kidding. I don't think he'd go there unless it was very lucrative. I'd settle for a different school district.

Anyway, I know it's been a long time since I've been around, but I was hoping for some good vibes to get me through tomorrow. I'm not sure how much sleep I'll get tonight, but I have a feeling tomorrow night I'll sleep like a baby! Thanks for listening.

Peace and hugs,

Cheryl :-)


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Tue, 09-14-2004 - 6:18am
Hey Cheryl,

Here's a bunch coming your way. What bad can happen compared to what you've already faced? Actually, I am jealous. I filed nine months ago and nothing is going on. Of course, I am not surprised. Old Wendell was always ready to hurry up and do nothing. So, I just pay the lawyer some $$$ each month to take care of the little tricks the idiot plays.

Well, get ready to say checkmate and stop for a bottle of champagne on the way home!


Terry

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Tue, 09-14-2004 - 11:37am
Thanks, Terry. I needed that. My mom will be here in about an hour and then we head over to the court. I'm feeling more anxious this morning, not knowing what to expect. I'm just glad he won't be there. Makes it easier, I think.

Terry, it will happen. I remember when you first came here. I'm sure others remember when I first came here, too. Oh, how far we've come, girl! This place has been my guiding light. It feels good to come back here. I shouldn't stay away so long! Hang in there. And thank you for the good thoughts!

Peace and hugs,

Cheryl :-)

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Tue, 09-14-2004 - 1:12pm

What a fruit.

CL-Blueliner4

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Tue, 09-14-2004 - 3:28pm
I am a single woman!!!!!!

The judge was terrific. She didn't like this every-third-week thing, but she accepted my response that once I got Hannah into counseling, I was going to come back to court to change it. She also did something that shocked me completely. She back-dated child support to February of this year, since that's when he signed the child support worksheet. She asked when he had last paid me and I told her January, so she back dated it! I couldn't believe it. Several people had told me that they wouldn't do that, so I was shocked. It adds up to $1925 in arrears, payable at $25 a month, which means he'll be paying it for 77 months. But that's okay. At least she is making him pay it! Then he has to pay September's payment right away and October coming up in a couple of weeks. I think he has to mail the first check himself, then it's automatically garnished. Arizona is great with child support collection if he has a job.

I'm excited and exhausted. I know that I'll have to hear about the back support as soon as he finds out. So I'm a bit apprehensive about that. But otherwise, I'm so glad this is over!!!! Thank you all for you support over the last 2+ years. Without all of you supporting me and helping me, I know that I wouldn't be here today doing this. My life is truly my own again!

Peace and hugs,

Cheryl :-)

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Tue, 09-14-2004 - 5:12pm

WHOOOOOOO!!!


CL-Blueliner4

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Tue, 09-14-2004 - 5:31pm
Wrapping you up in a BIG celebratory hug, Cheryl! YOU did it, girl! You stood up to him and you won... and now, you have set yourself free.

I have a tear in my eye, pride in you for going through it all and coming out victorious.

Hugs!

Christine

Outside ideas of right doing and wrong doing, there is a field. I will meet you there. -- Rumi
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Tue, 09-14-2004 - 7:29pm

CELEBRATE!

Mama Harmony

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Tue, 09-14-2004 - 10:00pm
WOO HOO! Congratulations Bama. I'm so glad for you and wish you nothing but happy days way, way into the future. Thanks for all of your advice in the last few months. You give me a goal to shoot for! (Never thought I'd be saying that.)

;)

MG
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Wed, 09-15-2004 - 2:01am
Thank you all so much. I was still a bit wired when I posted earlier about the hearing. Now I'm relaxed and exhausted. I feel renewed. I feel free, even though I've been physically free for 16 months, it is a new kind of free. anyone here who is currently thinking of leaving, I am telling you that it is worth every bit of struggle. It is so worth it. And the fact that I'm done just makes it even sweeter! Thank you so much!!

Peace and hugs,

Cheryl :-)