court update

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Registered: 11-12-2004
court update
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Tue, 04-05-2005 - 9:59am

Well, I didn't realize things could get worse, but they did. Summary: the court implies it sides with me in most every point. That is why it is such a pity that they have to punish me for AHL's behavior.

Temp custody: The judge said he needed actual concrete reason that there was a risk that AHL would take my son out of the country. He said he would reserve the granting of temp custody if AHL did anything to indicate there was a risk. He then asked AHL if he realized he has no right to take my son away and if he has intended to do so. (this is all through the translator) AHL then said something like "no, I have NEVER intended to take son away. If I did, who would stop me? A single counselor at the social center during supervised visitation? They couldn't stop me if I wanted to take him away. I have 12 years of military and combat training. I would have done it if I wanted to." The judge raised an eyebrow but nothing further was said.

Money: I have to pay to have a court order to stop him from putting a lien on my house. This costs approx. 700 USD. The court cannot order AHL to pay even though it is because he emptied all of the other accounts.

Court fees: I pay half the translator, 1500 USD, and the cost of this court, 300 USD. Of course my lawyer's fees are separate. AHL is ordered to pay the other equal half. Also coming up is the cost for a psychologist. This will be approx. 2000 USD each. Apparently if AHL does not pay his half, the court goes after me to pay it. That means I pay 3000 for translator, 4000 for psychologist, and 600 for court fees, plus any other court fees and translator fees after today. It is my responsibility to go after AHL to pay me back the money. If I do not pay, they can come to my house and start reposessing things, including the house I suppose. How is THAT for justice?

AHL has refused to pay me the 1100 ordered by the court last session. He refuses to pay child support. He refuses to pay back the mortgage money. I have my doubts he will pay his court costs. And isn't it nice that I could get put out on the street with my five year old child because AHL doesn't pay his debts. Or that I can't put food on the table if I pay because there isn't enough money to live?

What will I do now? I am already 1000 negative in my account, after paying 1300 in lawyer fees this month......

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Registered: 06-17-2004
In reply to: hglucky
Tue, 04-05-2005 - 12:22pm

OMG!!!! That is such a ridiculous amount of money!!!! And it is soo terrible that your H won't do his half. You'd think he'd want to prove that he could be a responsible father, but obviously not! Since he was court ordered to pay you back and to pay child support, won't they do anything about that? What's the point of ordering it if they will not enforce it? I'm so sorry you're dealing with all of this, I hope that you can stay strong to get through it....hey, you've come this far, right? Hang in there!


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Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: hglucky
Tue, 04-05-2005 - 12:46pm
OMG< i am stunned. I dont even know what to say. I will read the whole thread later & respond then. I am so sorry. (((HUGS)))

R~

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