Court Yesterday with Ex-Husband for Child Support
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|Fri, 02-10-2012 - 2:31pm|
With everything else going on lately, I had a court date yesterday with the ex-husband. The first time I've seen him in years! The attorney general's office was bringing the child support to court, in order to modify the order and (as I only found out yesterday) get an official start date of child support on paper, so they could finally do enforcement (like jail and suspend driver's lisence)! So, he got royally chewed out by the AG's attny and we didn't even up going in front of the judge bc he signed the agreement. His child support is going down, but he still owes $7k backpay and the payments are much more than I'm getting now. And, he was told that if he misses a payment by even a dollar - it's jail. I was so nervous, especially when they kicked all the spouses out of the courtroom. I felt so much better with dh there next to me, but he positioned himself right outside the door, so I could still see him if I looked over my shoulder.
I was so nervous and worried about the whole thing. But, it worked out great. The ex didn't even bring up visitation, and when I mentioned about the possiblity of signing over his rights, so my husband could adopt the kiddo, he didn't disagree. Also, when he left the court room, he was whining and crying and pissy about having to pay anything. My ex husband didn't even try to speak to me or make eye contact with me, except for a moment when he started getting mad about how much the arrears where. He tried to glare at my husband, but the second my dh gave him his "i know who you are, you scumbag" look, my ex tucked his tail and ran away.
On top of the outcome being great, it was strangely satisfying to see how completely different our lives turned out. He was there in oversized jeans, baggy clothes, brand new sneakers and an iphone, long goatee and totally dirty and creepy looking with his girlfriend who looked straight off Jerry Springer. And, there me and dh were - looking professional (him in a suit and me in my business-wear), very up-standing, suburban family-ish, if that makes any sense. And, the ex seriously aged badly. He used to be really attractive and fit, and now - he looks... gross, to say the least.