DD called her dad last night...

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Registered: 12-29-2004
DD called her dad last night...
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Sat, 02-26-2005 - 9:34am

after I told her not to. It was late, but she had approached me with the fact that she didn't want to go to her dad's this weekend...I had taught her, her dad's phone # and she snuck the phone and called him to tell him that she wasn't going this weekend! Bless her little heart. She loves me so much and misses me when she's there that she flat refuses to go. I promise you, I am not doing anything or saying anything that would make her not want to go. She is our DD afterall, and has a very stubborn mind. I know that she loves her dad, but she IS more comfortable at home and MOMMY cooks! Dad takes her to McDonalds. Too much of a good thing...

So, what am I to do? The court order says that she spends so much time with him a week and on what days, but, she REALLY DOESN'T WANT TO BE THERE!!!!!!!!!! Help! How do I make her go?

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Registered: 02-08-2005
Sat, 02-26-2005 - 1:45pm
Bless her heart, it does sound like she is miserable there.
5yrssm 
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Sat, 02-26-2005 - 10:30pm

Unfortunately, it is court mandated. She has to go every Wed. night and every weekend, but she really hates it over there. I might get into trouble, but I can't see FORCING her to go when she really doesn't want to. She called him again tonight and told him that she doesn't want to go tomorrow either, but he is going to pick her up at 9:00 am and take her to breakfast and get her a pair of boots to wear with the new skirts and tights that I just bought her. He says he will return her at noon. Go figure!!!!!

He even asked to talk to me and guess what...he wants me to go! NO WAY IN H%$# WILL I GO!!! I can't see me even talking to him let alone eating with him ever again. I will talk to him when it concerns our dd but otherwise there is NO CONTACT!!! The man has been TOO abusive for me to ever be around him again and my kids are alot happier now that he is gone.

What do you think he's up to (as if I didn't know)? LOL! I guess the grass ISN'T greener on the other side...but I've moved on...and it is TOO LATE!!!

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Registered: 02-08-2005
Sat, 02-26-2005 - 11:39pm

Well you go girl! LOL.

5yrssm 
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Sat, 02-26-2005 - 11:55pm

Thanks wishful!!! I will be in contact with my attorney especially as STBX has to face the judge tues. morning for contempt of court and then on to mediation...of course, nothing will come of that as he wants to make my life miserable any way he can...including, using our dd to hurt me...LOSER!!!!!!!!!!!!

I will let you know as soon as I have more info...keep your fingers crossed!

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