Dealing with verbal abuse.
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Dealing with verbal abuse.
| Fri, 05-26-2006 - 12:28pm |
I dont know if you can call this abuse or not. But I think it is. No, wait a minute I know it is. Who am I kidding? O.k. I've been married to my husband for 8 1/2 mos. Ever since I decided to quite my job as a receptionist @ the doc. office, he's been disrespecting me. Before I had quit, I asked him first if I can quit and he said it was ok. I had to quit because the doctor started cutting my hours and he didnt need me anymore. So I quit. Now that I'm home with the baby all day, I get frustrated and depressed because I'm depending on my husband to give me money. Right now I'm depending on the child support money from my son. My husband is behind on the mortgage and a couple of bills. He makes good money but since he's the only one that's working it's kind of hard for him. I'm going back to school in the fall. I have a very low self esteem now that Im home with the baby. My husband is on me for every little thing. I can never do anything right according to him. If its not the baby its something. He treats me and talks to me like Im stupid. He likes to make me cry in front of the kids. He has a son from a previous relationship. His son must think its my fault. Hes threaten me with divorce. Hes called me a hoe,whore, bitch. He has degraded me as a woman. And this man is a Christian???? He has accused me of having a crush on our next door neighbor. He has accused me of sleeping with the neighbor. He critizes me on how I speak. And so on and so on. He tells me Im only telling for your own good. He doesnt talk to me like Im his wife. He talks to me like Im a little girl. Hes called me stupid and all other stuff. Ive became an angry person. Any little thing I blow up and I start to cry. He tells me "I shouldve known better than to marry a non-christian." How can a Christian speak like that to his wife? I dont believe in divorce now that I'm reading the bible. So what should I do?

Loving Mother to Josue and Wife to Sergio
As Gonna points out, the Bible does NOT condone abusing your spouse. Your husband has, in essence, broken his marriage vows when he did so. He promised, presumably, to love, honor, and cherish you, and verbal abuse is none of the above.
What you do is your decision entirely, but don't let him hide behind the Bible as an excuse not to divorce him. Jesus said, "Love one another as I have loved you." Is your husband doing that?