Difficult time

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Registered: 11-12-2004
Difficult time
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Fri, 04-01-2005 - 1:12pm

The 14 days AHL had to pay the money to me ordered by the court came and went. He paid nothing. And AHL took that money from my pay check account at the end of February and I am just now feeling the effects it caused. I posted sometime back that he took nearly 3000 dollars, which I think is enough to cause anyone problems. Well, at least most average people. And that includes me. Add to it that I must pay legal fees this month in the amount of 1500 dollars, and it hurts.

So I am just sick. I am sick that he has taken so much and continues to try to screw with my life. That he continues his lies. I mean, here is this AH who cries out that this evil woman prevents him from being the glorious, wonderful father that he is, and yet he refuses to pay support and not a lick of guilt over causing any financial difficulties to us. I can imagine he went out the night he took the money and treated himself, girlfriend, mother, out to an expensive dinner to celebrate. I see it as him taking his son's clothes and food money, and treating himself rather than taking care of his child.

The spring is here and my son still has only a single pair of winter boots for snow. They are good and still fit, but the feet sweat in them now that the weather is warming up. Of course I had to get him a pair of new shoes. Shoes are expensive here and it cost me over 50 dollars for them, even though they were cheaper than most of them. As it was just this last weekend, my account had already gone negative. I didn't have the money to buy them but I had to anyway. Can you imagine how much that hurts to think this AH sits there in front of the judge saying how HE WANTED TO DO THINGS AMICABLY BUT SHE IS BEING UNAGREEABLE, and yet his actions directly affect his own child, let alone are unfair. I was going to buy my son some spring/summer clothes last weekend and couldn't. I have to put it off until I can recover from HIS blow. Does anyone else see how doubly malicious what he did was? Please say you do because I feel like I am the only one who thinks this is just complete insanity to do this to those you claimed to have 'loved'. Why? Better yet...how? How can somebody be so selfish and cruel? I mean, this guy committed every sin and crime that can be done in a marriage, as well as during the divorce, save for murder. And even that I was beginning to wonder about. How could his head get so screwed up to be so destructive to everything he touches? What kind of aweful childhood could have created such a twisted mind? How did I get mixed up with a horrible person such as this? I could use a hug about now....

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Registered: 11-12-2003
In reply to: hglucky
Fri, 04-01-2005 - 1:30pm

Sending big (((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))) to the continent.


Man, I wish you were here in the US.

CL-Blueliner4

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Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: hglucky
Sat, 04-02-2005 - 4:31pm

Sweetie, I am so sorry. On the money front - have you looked into consignment stores for kids? Wonderful deals! & Ebay as well. I find GREAT deals! Just put in "boys shoes size 6" or whatever, & a whoel new world opens up! lol

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