Do you ever wonder if your to sensitive?

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Do you ever wonder if your to sensitive?
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Sat, 02-11-2012 - 8:14am

Right now I feel so alone and like I am fighting with everyone when it really only is two people but they both think it is my fault and I don't but deep down I wonder if it is me. I feel so alone right now and have both letting me know today how horrible I am in different way and I don't feel like I did anything wrong. Mainly the problem stems from me standing up for my children. I will always stand up for them because no one ever has for me but at the same time maybe I do when I shouldn't? I want to crawl under the covers and stay there for awhile but have to work, run some errands, and celebrating Valentine's today with the boyfriend since we both work Tuesday and everything will be a mad house then anyway but I am hurting so bad right now and I am not sure what to do or think. I was fighting with boyfriend up till Thursday but he ended up apologizing and taking most the blame there. It is funny because if I posted about the stuff him and I go though with each other I know I would be told to end it, everything else thinks I should. And no he is not abusive. But I end up forgiving him because he admits he over reacts and when we fight he keeps texting me till we fix things.But with everyone else they act like it is all my fault and I should be the one apologizing. I do with him too but we both admit we were wrong these other two think they can talk to me who ever they want and I should just take it and one of them who should be one of the most important people in my life I know will never ever admit to be wrong and yet everyone else thinks he is sigh). Why does life have to be this way?


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Sat, 02-11-2012 - 9:59am

Life is hard and its

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Sat, 02-11-2012 - 1:21pm
It's just these people think its me and sometimes I wonder if it. If I over react over things. But I went so many years with putting up with bs that I refuse to now and maybe a little is ok and I should budge? I feel like I still put up with some stuff but maybe I don't.

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Mon, 02-13-2012 - 1:16pm
IMO, it is your job as a mom to stand up for your kids. But, just make sure, that in standing up for them, you aren't keeping them from learning consequences and taking constructive criticism.

I don't mean to pry - but what kinds of things are ya'll arguing about that would make people say you need to end the relationship? While he may not be abusive, arguing so much in any relationship isn't healthy. I find myself sometimes trying to pick fights with DH just because that seems like the "normal" thing to do. He understands and re-directs me until we'll both laughing usually or at least talking through it. Perhaps that is what you are doing too? - trying to create fights because it is what you are used to?

Hope things get better for you soon. :)
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Mon, 02-13-2012 - 11:34pm

I stand up for my children when they are unfairly attacked and when they do something they shouldn't they know I will be the first one to point it out and let them know what I think about it.

Its not just the fighting but when we fight


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Tue, 02-14-2012 - 2:15pm

"We fight though text messaging and things get out of hand. When we talk face to face things like this dont happen. Other things that happen is we live about 45 minutes apart and he will no longer come see me. He use to all the time but now I have to go there"

Sorry got to say this to you..but it seems like you are the one doing all the work in this relationship. Abuse or not, it is not healthy. Now I am the last person to judge..but I think you got to give him the cold shoulder and wait for things to pan out. What is it you want from this relationship? Ask yourself that and set your expectations.

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Tue, 02-14-2012 - 2:38pm
He isn't the only one I feel this way about. Others are bothered more by him not coming to see me then I am. He claims he is moving in by the time his lease is up in june and then this won't be an issue but I quit telling people that because no one believes him. With the text messages I will realize later sometimes that I misunderstood what was said. I handle face to face conversations better with less misunderstandings but I still sometimes wonder if I over react. Recent fighht with a friend started by her texting me about a young driver who had a bad accedent and saying it should be a wake up call to my oldest. I simply asked why she singled out my daughter and things blew up from there. I was upset by this my friend drives to fast and talks on the phone so I thought it should have been worded as a wake up call for all not just young drivers. But maybe I over reacted?

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Tue, 02-14-2012 - 6:29pm

yes, whenever I hear about another teen driving death, it is a wake up call to ALL of us. I think your friend probably did not mean to single out your daughter but even if she did, she had your and her best interest at heart.

Better to get off text messaging and email and have a face to face conversations or phone calls...emails and txt msgs create more problems and people misconstrue.

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Tue, 02-14-2012 - 7:33pm
No she meant it towards all young drivers. She thinks her driving to fast is OK and young drivers shouldn't. But had I called her things wouldn't have gotten as bad but it was coming with us I think and again not sure if it is me being to sensitive or her being to sensitive. But sometimes I wish I had tougher skin.

As for the bf no way to know that for sure. Sigh. I think it will be OK but who knows

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