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| Sat, 11-12-2005 - 2:51am |
Hi friends , my name is Tracey and im a 42 yr old mum of 2 teenage girls ,one 19 and one 15.
Its a long story but i will keep it as short as possible.
ive been in and out of an emotionally and sometimes physically abusive relationship for the past 20 years.
One of the main reasons for staying in the relationship is for my 15 yr old.
Over the last 3 years , we have had 4 family ( close ) deaths , people who she has been extremley close to , and then there have been 2 friends at school who have died also.
At her lowest point she was losing her hair , and the doctors have told her and me that she has been so close to a nervous breakdown.
She is clinging on to her dad so tight , i have a dad , her grandad , but she wont get close to him as he drinks and shes scared of getting close to him in case something happens to him.
Our 19 yr old daughter bought a puppy ( beagle ) who is now 7 months , gorgeous , and well behaved for its breed.
She bought him with some money that she had saved up herself , she pays for everything for him , walks him , etc...
About 4 months ago she moved into a rented house with her boyfiend , anyway things have turned sour and hes refusing to keep a job , pay rent , get food , gas , electric ,
and she wants to come home coz if she doesnt shes going to get into debt , shes at full time college at the moment and is constantly applying for P/T jobs.
Her dad has told her shes not allowed to come back , unless she gets rid of the dog.
She has shown her dad that hes been trained , that she looks after him , but he wont budge and he says shes not coming home with the dog.
She doesnt want to get rid of him , shes waited a long time to get this particular breed and colour and basically she and me and her sister love the bones of him.
Her dad by the way , we are talking about someone who wants his own way all the time , im with him but only in the looking after him sense , theres no romance , no sex , no love , when i approaoch the subject of sex and romance , he laughs , like he does at everything else.
We have to go where he wants to on holiday , if its anyones birthday or xmas , he wont get anything unless he gives us money to go and get it for him.
Hes very narccistic , and abusive, me , me , me , me .
Our 15 doesnt want her sister to come back home as it is peaceful at the moment , and she and i knows that if the 19yr old comes back with the dog , its going to start him off.
But me as a mum cannot see my daughter homeless.
I just dont know what to do.
Right at this momnet i want to throw hubby out , hes being cruel.
But then i think my 15 yr old needs him , but then what about 19 yr old
Please help me.x.x.x
thanks
Tracey x x x
