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| Mon, 01-17-2005 - 12:02pm |
Hi, I'm new to this board. I've been dating a guy for about 4-5 months now and while I've suspected his behavior was out of line, I wasn't sure until recently. I've been posting on another board and the folks there validated my concerns and someone suggeted I post here, so here I am!
In a nutshell, the guy I'm dating is verbally and emotionally abusive. He is super-controlling and possessive. He constantly accuses me of cheating on him and has gone through my phone call lists and voice mails, grilling me about who people are. I do have male friends, but I've been open about them from the beginning of our relationship. Whenever I'm not available for him he thinks it's bad- recently I didn't answer his call because I was at the doctor and he was angry with me! He said he should come first. He threatens and intimidates me, and I'm scared of him. Nearly everything I do or say is the "wrong" thing in his eyes, and one day he will like something I do and the next he will despise the same thing. I never know from day to day what to expect. He manipulates me into doing things he wants, and I don't even realize it until later, and I feel stupid. I could go on, but you get the idea.
On his good days, though, he is very sweet, supportive, and adorable. He says he loves me- I don't know if he does or not. I do know I love him, but I have to do the difficult thing of breaking it off before I lose myself to him- I feel I've already lost myself to him in a way. So, I am trying to draw strength to do this. I'm reading some books right now to help, but anything anyone here can suggest would be appreciated.
| Mon, 01-17-2005 - 7:01pm |
| Tue, 01-18-2005 - 3:04pm |
