Email from Ex

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Email from Ex
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Wed, 07-07-2004 - 8:25pm
i know that I know better, but why do i let emails like this bother. I even have his emails blocked, but they only automatically go into my deleted folder, and then i read them like an idiot.

here it is


pam listen to the words of that song,i dont no who sings it but it goes like,im not a perfect person i never meant to do those things to you ,,,that song is so me ,that blackhole is back in my stomach it was gone a few days but now its back. i only want us to be able to go out or you come over and swim with me like we did last week just hang and be friends no more than that. i really will be happy with just that. i did nothin wrong and i wouldnt be mean to you. i never will believe it but its true i guess this is my last email you said after today in court, that you never want to see me again or email or call ,i somehow think the blackhole has gotten you again lets just enjoy each other and have fun. no relationship that messes stuff up. right now i dont want no relationship with no one im serious. i can see how you can like jim, i like kim but its different than you,but i do like her, but i dont love her, but i do love you pam i guess i probably always will, you know thats not wrong is it??? i am not trying to get you back, im content the way things were i just want you in my life as friends going out, you need to chill, come over relax by the pool, do what ever want to go to a movie ,or watch one or go out to dinner whatever, only if you want. if not, im ok with that too, but dont throw 23 years totally away. if we decide to have new partners well i guess we wont be able to hang out but right now i dont see why not i really had fun with you last week and we could have more than that. no strings, no bull. think about it and let me know. take your time. Now about dustin..... this is it pam, we got to make sure he dont mess up. He is going to end up in jail. you tell me what you want me to do and i will. I want to talk to him but right now he is mad at me and im only trying to help him and the statement you made about gettin to you thru him, pam get over it. please thats my son i love him and want to help him i want to know what hes doing. dont call me when its too late. please lets work all of this out. we can find a happy medium. i dont want you and the kids out my life we can still all hang out i love all 3 of you your my family even tho no one cares for me i found that out last week alright.. listen to the song its my words to you im not perfect pam and i never did mean to hurt you i was stupid i regret everything i said and did i would die for them all now i am deeply sorry pam ever given the chance i would repay millions of times over thats why i just want to show you good times take them i want to help dustin tell me what you think i should do love u always yourxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: zen77
Wed, 07-07-2004 - 10:30pm
PAM!!!

My goodness girl, it's been so long since you posted here. I remember when I first came here, you were here and having such a horrible time with you dh. If I remember correctly - you're divorced now. KEEP IT THAT WAY!! Especially after reading his e-mail. It sounds like he is trying to keep you under his thumb still. I know that you have some serious problems with your son, but some how you have to keep the contact with your ex only about the kids and whatever issues that must be discussed in regards to the kids.

He is saying things to try to hook you in again - don't fall for it. Don't read them. You have come so far since you were here last, you were/are one of the ones I have looked to for guidance.

He knows that his e-mails will get to you, that you will "think" about him because he has written to you - it is all part of his game plan to keep you near and controlled by him. Please, see it for what it is, don't fall for it. I know the words are so much easier said than done - but stay strong. You've been through worse, you can do this and not fall prey to him again. Work on you. Are you seeing a therapist? Show them the email. They will be able to help you stay away from him and to realize what an sappy ploy this is in trying to continue to control and manipulate you.

Pam - it is nice to hear from you again, although I'm sorry you are struggling with this again. Keep posting, even though mizlizzy and jeepster aren't around, the new cl's are fantastic and there are a lot of other's that post also that have great support and thoughts. You will find the validation you need to be reassured again that you have done the right thing.

hugs to you,

Pam