emotional&verbal

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Registered: 06-13-2004
emotional&verbal
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Tue, 08-03-2004 - 11:20am

Hi,I don't know if I belong here,but thought I would give it a try..I am trying to help out a dear friend who is in a emotional and verbal marriage..his wife is a control freak..they have been married for 31years ,he says he is committed to his marriage but I cant imagine why..here is some history.. she controls every aspect of his life..he is not allowed to have any money on him,,she controls that,,its so bad he has to ask his co workers for change for a soda. they both work but she doesn't think they need two cars,so he is dropped off and picked up from work every day,,if she is going to be late she does not even call to tell him this,,,but when she finally shows up to pick him up if he is two seconds late in getting in the car she bitches for hours.. every idea he has is shot down, he is off on the weekends and does all the cleaing ,laundry etc,yet she will come home and yell at him for not doing anything.. they have not had sex in over 2years because she does not want it.. I could go on and on but it just upsets me..I keep trying to tell this man its only going to get worse,,he said he has tried to talk to her but she will not listen.. this man is the nicest man you would ever want to meet,,she is killing his soul,and I feel so helpless because there is nothing I can do to help him or to make him realize he has to stand up to her and say something/.


Is there anyone else in the same situation>:(


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Registered: 11-12-2003
Tue, 08-03-2004 - 1:50pm

Hi Stillbelieves and welcome -


Sadly the last line of your post pretty much sums up the situation.

CL-Blueliner4

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Registered: 06-13-2004
Tue, 08-03-2004 - 2:37pm

Hi blue


Thanks so much for your kind words and the info..I have even suggested he get a voice activated recorder and record her sometime when she is going on one of her rants,let her hear what she sounds like.. she also does not think she has a problem,,my fear is this guy who is so mild mannered and has been taking her abuse for so many years and keeping it inside will some day reach the point of breaking..and lash out at her..


Its just so sad,she is missing so much but holding this resentment towards him,,life is too short..and she probaly will not realise what she has missed until its too late..


I will keep you posted...thanks again ")