ex of 13 years that wont stop

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Registered: 09-28-2004
ex of 13 years that wont stop
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Tue, 09-28-2004 - 8:35am
What would you do about this situation?iYou and your very abusive ex broke up 13 years ago but had a child that you brought up almost all by yourself until he was 12 and then wanted to live with this man and the courts allowed it (with no neglect or abuse on moms side), The hitch is the man always was obsessed and followed you all those years but didnt visit the child and then turned around once he had the child and withheld visits and started to harrass you again? It is very scary and I fear for my life but he has not "touched" me since the restraining order let up 3 months ago. I get letters faxed to my office and car that follow me home. I cannot afford an attorney anymore and make too much for pubil defenders. What would you do?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 09-28-2004 - 10:10am
Hugs guardianadlitem. I suggest that you contact a local shelter or other DV resources in your area. Talk to them and explain the situation. They offer many services beyond a safe haven, they can help you with alot of this. If they cannot for whatever reason, call the National Abuse Hotline at 1-800-799-7233, talk to them and tell them what you have said here and what, if they refuse you locally, what resources can they recommend to give you more options. Deal with only those who are trained in Domestic Violence so that you are getting the proper information.

What he is doing is abuse and you don't need to put up with it. Also, since you have had cars following you home, I would suggest stopping in at your police department, ask for a DV officer and report all this. Get it on record. If the local's don't want to be bothered, call your State Police and again, tell them you need to talk with a DV officer because your local police refuse to help.

There is help for you, you just have to find it and then use it. Also on the homepage of this board there are many numbers and links to many DV resources around the world. Hopefully there will be one that is near you and again, keep looking!

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