The ex called Child Protective Services
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| Tue, 04-19-2005 - 10:34am |
ON ME!!!
I finally got done with their investigation of me last night. After a week of cleaning and organizing they didn't see anything wrong with my house. They were told I had a dirty house, the baby was dirty and my grandmother who watches him falls asleep during the day leaving him unattended.
So to anyone, here afraid of leaving because of social services being called note. They came I told them about the situation and they left. They said that taking the baby would not happen except as a last resort only. If they found anything at all, they would give me the time to fix it and or help to solve the problem.
Now, if he would only just give the attorney his paperwork so we can finish the divorce.
Oh, and I have to take a court ordered coparenting class this week. 3 hours of polite knodding and trying not to fall asleep. I asked what do I do to coparent when there is abuse in the relationship between the parents and you could have heard a pin drop. I actually left her speechless...

Oh, mercy.
If you haven't already, alert your lawyer about the CPS claim. Your STBX is clearly grasping at straws.
CL-Blueliner4
"I asked what do I do to coparent when there is abuse in the relationship between the parents and you could have heard a pin drop."
I'm proud of you for asking. How ironically appropriate. If word gets back to the courts that parents are asking questions like this - ones the "educators" can answer - maybe the law will change re: the classes. Well done claiming your space.
I had a appointment with my attorney the day they showed up so I told him right away. The lawyer says that we had to wait until all grace periods and good faith letters had been exhausted before we could go to court and say that he was uncooperative.
We have a court date in May on the custody, visitation and support. Of course, he still isn't working as he is "so sick with cancer" If what I hear is true he really is falling apart at the seams and the girlfriend is just as mean to him as he was to me. She sat next to his bed in preop last week and ate constantly for 12 hours while he waited to go back. He is also really quiet and doesn't say much around her. I know her and he should remember her too as he is the ex wife of someone who works with my mom and we have discussed in the past how awful a person she is.
The class if you are just going thru a we can't get along/grew apart divorce would be great. I wish my parents would have had to take in the 70s when they split. I just don't get how I'm supposed to coparent with him. If he was in his right mind, we would be parenting not divorcing to begin with.
Yepyepyep - I filed for the Temp Restraining Order on September 17, 2004
Hugs jbpintolady! A close friend of mine's daughter was in a similar situation and it took finding a trained abuse lawyer to finally help her through the mess. It seems that as the states start helping victims of abuse with new laws, the abusers also have come to find that they can use the laws against us, again abusing us, so now we once again have to be even more vigil. Make sure that they are trained in abuse, not just handled a couple cases. If we don't use trained abuse professionals, too many times we get the wrong information and the case is not handled properly thus giving the abuser more to use against us.
Have you talked with a shelter to ask for references to find a trained abuse lawyer in your area? If not, it might be a good look. As once you start using trained abuse lawyers, counselors, etc, they know what abusers do, how they twist laws to work for them and how to present these cases to judges in a way that they understand this is not your usual case.
If for some reason you cannot find a shelter, call 1-800-799-7233, the National Abuse Hotline and they can give you some numbers for your area.
I hope this helps as I know once my friends daughter found one, things turned much faster in her direction as her lawyer could explain to the judge that this was a case of abuse, that the abuser is using the laws to try and make her look like the abuser verses the victim and that it needs immediate attention, not counseling.
Hugs