Exhusband just found out

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Registered: 01-08-2004
Exhusband just found out
Wed, 05-10-2006 - 12:52pm
I left my abuser 3 years ago. We divorced 1 1/2 years ago. He immediately moved in with his secretary and started treating her badly in front of my boys. He has not hurt the boys so he is allowed to have visitation. We have done the custody eval etc... I have primary custody and he has visitation because of his "issues" I met a wonderful man 5 months ago. This weekend I introduced him to my boys exactly the way their therapist instructed me to. I am terrified now! I am so scared. My friends are frightened for me also. I can't let my ex keep controlling my life. This is the first man in 3 years my boys have ever met. Not that there were that many I dated. He is very very special. I did not want to invest any more time in a relationship if he was not good with my boys. The family therapist was in agreement with the introduction. I do not know how not to be terrified. I would appreciate any feedback from anyone who has gone through this.