Feel like I am going crazy...anyone???
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| Thu, 05-26-2005 - 6:48am |
No one I know has ever been in this situation but I feel like I am going crazy and need some advice. My dd is l7 yrs old and in my dh's eyes there is absolutely nothing she can do wrong, he is a yes man and a sugar daddy. It is almost disgusting. People who know him cannot believe what he lets her get away with. When I do disciplinary measures for her he will over rule me, this has been going on for a while and now she simply takes the easy way out, and simply asks him.
We got notice from her teachers both in class on home work and tests she has declined a bit, and because she is out every nite of the week, and because when she is not out she is on her cell, or IM'ing I decided w/ the notice from the teachers we would start pushing back on all these privleges she has. I took away her laptop and hid it for two days and dh never bother to know I had it. He called me a fu**** bi**** and said I was being ridiculous, this was after she came out at 9 30 from going out doin nothing. She was caught w/ vodka months ago, and dh says it probably was not his, and did not even take it seriously. Day after day he allows her to push, and I take verbal abuse for not letting her do things. Never have I heard of a dad going sooooo far out of his way for his dd. Last nite after no computer, I told him where it is cuz it's his, she packed her bags and threated to leave, do you know what he did WENT TO BED !!! I was like goin crazy she is leaving and you are going to bed. WTH.
She got into minor car accident, and he said because the two hr special of CSI was on and she called us "why do we have to go" WTH is he kidding me. Incident after incident when she does something wrong he passes it off, she was caught cheating on a test in school, and he said she was not really cheating if she was the teacher would have called us. This came out at a parent teacher conference. He calls me a f'n b rite in front of her and what is worse is she calls me it in front of him and he does not even move or look or say anything. The verbal abuse is surreal. My concern is this is killing my dd's and mine relationship, she hates me and adores him.
Help please.....

Are you Kidding me?
Thank u for writing, unfortunately it is sooo passed telling them I mean business. DD does not even come up to me to ask if she can go out anymore rite to daddy. He who asks why he should go and show up when the poor kid gets into her lst car accident, and he who goes to bed, as she is packing her bags. My number one concern is my dd, she is sooo screwed up. Who the hell wants to stay with the one who will give her love, guidelines support, etc. And he taught her sooo well how to play me. Last nite he was out at gym she went out for bite to eat with friend I sat here like an idiot.
I have to get on w/ my life I know this. Problem is dd will probably stay with him then what. Though not much is different now huh?
Soo dam confused this a.m. was in counseling and everything cousnelor said he is going against. On the phone this a.m. he said I was such a fuc**** bit*** to her las nite for not letting her use his puter. WTH...this after bad reports from teachers.. I am goin nutz..
Thank for the reply.