Feel stupid asking but……Is it possible for this dynamic to ever change?
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|Mon, 01-16-2012 - 2:56pm|
I know it's such a cliche question but this is what I'm facing. My alcoholic husband became verbally and emotionally abusive over the course of our 9 year marriage. The last 4 months or so we have been in intensive couples therapy, individual therapy, and he has stopped drinking completely and regularly attends AA meetings. He is becoming the husband myself and my children deserved all along. I realize it's early on but he seems to sincerely grasp how wrong his behavior has been.
My problem? I have been put through so much emotional hell the last 5 years (when it became obvious I was a SAHM trapped in an abusive M to an alcoholic) that I'm completely unable to find the "love" that I thought was there. Not only that, I feel like I've wasted so much of my life and potential I'm afraid to waste anymore. I'm 33 and beginning to understand that there is life out there for me. I have no doubt we would be able to successfully co-parent but for the sake of my children I feel like I need to give us a chance. Is a successful marriage possible after all this pain? Do people ever really change this kind of behavior?