feeling embarrassed

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Registered: 07-08-2004
feeling embarrassed
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Tue, 10-12-2004 - 3:42am
Hello and may peace be upon all of you. It is late and I finished feeding the baby (shes doing great) but i cant go to sleep. My husband struck me while a friend of his was at the house tonight. We were in separate rooms but I am sure his friend saw but he turned away. This is a big embarrassment. He told me that we would be spending a full three weeks instead of two overseas in a few weeks (about half way through Ramadan we will leave). I hoped two weeks due to our oldest son missing school. The school he attends does have vacation time during Ramadan but not that long.

In the morning the children will see my face and then i feel more shame, because it happens, because I cant stop it, cant explain it, feeling weak even in front of them, feeling bad for the oldest two trying to pretend not to notice. Fajr prayer is only a few hours away so i should go to bed. I wish that i could be a better wife but even more than that I wish that my husband will find inner strength during this Ramadan to become a kinder husband.
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Registered: 05-18-2004
Tue, 10-12-2004 - 7:37am

Wife, YOU have absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about.

Mama Harmony

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 10-12-2004 - 2:28pm
Hi Wife... Hugs!!!

This is HIS SHAME, my dear, not yours. There is nothing whatsoever for you to feel embarrassed or ashamed of. HE chose to hit you. The bruises are there because of HIM. You are an admirable wife. Of course, he will not tell you this. He will justify assaulting you by saying that you are not good enough, you made him do it, etc., etc. Do NOT believe this nonsense.

You are a beautiful, caring woman who does not deserve his abuse. My heart goes out to you.

Christine

Outside ideas of right doing and wrong doing, there is a field. I will meet you there. -- Rumi