Finally

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Registered: 11-07-2003
Finally
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Sat, 01-15-2005 - 9:12am
I used to post here quite often and then stopped because of all the turmoil going on. I've been out of my abusive relationship for close to a year now...March 17 was the day the judge approved my PFA and said that the relationship was over. It took my ex-fiance completely destroying my apartment and kicking my cat and even then I wasn't sure I could live without the jerk. Then when it came time to press criminal charges and I didn't because he was out of my house and that's what I wanted...he sent me a flower that said "Thanks for the memories" and I knew then that arrogant SOB would never care. I've moved to a new place, have all unlisted numbers, carry my PFA which will expire in just two months. I sold all the stuff he didn't take with him on e-bay and gave some to charity. The store where I bought my wedding dress went out of business and I just left the dress there for them to sell in their bankruptcy. I haven't heard from him since that flower. It amazes me how happy I am simply living alone. My friends and family all comment on how different I look and sound. I've recently started dating a wonderful man and I'm taking my time with that. It's very nice to be treated well. I'd forgotten what that felt like. And I was thinking yesterday that the nicest thing my ex did for me was to go balistic that night and provide that final straw. I'm thankful that it wasn't worse than that. I'm thankful for the supportive people here who told me to stop letting him manipulate me and I'm thankful to my mother who made me get the arrest warrant at 2 in the morning and made sure I didn't give in and see him. When he couldn't talk to me or see me or tell me what to do, I began to discover that I was okay alone...even better alone. It has taken time, and will take more time but I've come this far. Also, my favorite new song...My Give a Damn's Busted by Jo Dee Messina. The fight song for us all. Thanks again.
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Registered: 03-25-2003
In reply to: pepomntpat
Sat, 01-15-2005 - 10:32am
Way to go dear. So wonderful to hear great things and when you learn alone does not mean lonley it is a little easier. Alone is me time and lonley we are all with our abusers. HUGS and Prayers to you dear.>Jo
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Registered: 11-12-2003
In reply to: pepomntpat
Sat, 01-15-2005 - 1:21pm

Woo-hoo!


Welcome back, girl!

CL-Blueliner4

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Registered: 11-07-2003
In reply to: pepomntpat
Sat, 01-15-2005 - 1:57pm
It feels like forever ago to me...like another life. I feel like a completely different person and I love it.