Finally came down to this

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Registered: 03-22-2004
Finally came down to this
Mon, 08-14-2006 - 6:16pm
I have been a member of this board for the past 2 years and have not posted anything for quite awhile. I was engaged to my ex-fiance for 2 years and last April he kicked me out of the house for no reason other than he thought it was the best thing for the relationship. I maintained contact with him over the past year because of numerous things. I still care for the guy but he was put in jail on Friday morning and did not get out until this afternoon. He has physically abused me and destroyed my personal property in the past and now he has been formally charged with partner/family member assault, criminal trespassing and criminal mischief. He was calling me constantly and after going out for drinks with two good friends (female) he went psycho. He almost ran my friend off the road because he was trying to cut her off and get next to the vehicle I was in. He tried to physically remove me from the bar that we were at and eventually went back to my residence and gained access to my garage. He got into my vehicle and spilled stuff all over the drivers side , tore out my satellite radio and ruined it, turned off the power and took air out of my tires. He also threatened to shoot my horse. So he had a chance after the sheriff was called. He was drinking heavily and the sheriff verbally warned him to leave me alone (that is all I wanted was for him to leave me alone so I could get some sleep) The next morning he started in calling me again and came to my house and started beating on the side of the house and windows.
I talked to him through a window and told him to go home and sleep it off but he kept on harassing me. So I called the sheriff again and he was arrested on Friday morning. Since the judge was out of town he had to sit in jail until this afternoon.
I guess I wanted to share my story for no other reason than to let others know that there is help out there and once somebody starts abusing you, chances are they won't stop. I have given this guy every chance under the sun and thankfully I was not injured or killed. I have a restraining order in effect and will have to go to court at the end of the month. It is nightmare and there is nothing fun about it. I did not want this to happen, but he made his decisions and I cannot and will not be responsible for his actions anymore.
Thanks for letting me share/vent, I guess this is maybe part of the healing process. No matter how much you love somebody, letting them control you and ruin your life is not worth it.