first 100 days ?
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| Fri, 10-06-2006 - 7:44pm |
Hi, it's me again. I believe one of you mentioned getting on the domestic abuse main page and read up about what the first 100 days are like after leaving an abuser. . . . Can I get some direction on how to locate it. I guess I feel like an idiot because I cannot figure out how to locate this (I was told how dumb I am for so long. . . ). Anyhow, I am interested in reading about this and need walked through on how to find it.
I appreciate everyone's advice so much. I have been seeing a therapist for a long time and I didn't seem to get the same type of advice I have been getting here and your words really sank in and gave me the strength to break up with my abuser last Friday. Also, by reading what others are going through or have gone through - I saw similar patterns in what I was dealing with and I guess it made it more real to me. I didn't want to admit that it really was abuse. I thought it was me or just something wrong in our relatinship that could be fixed. .
Other than his few attempts to contact me the very next day, I haven't heard anything from him and I am elated! I cannot tell you how many Friday nights of mine that were so stressful and ruined because he would repeatedly disappoint me or provoke a fight. Then when I tried to stand my ground, he would tell me I am crazy and/or a b*tch. It never occurred to him that I had much help getting this way. The last few months were so hard and I kept getting sick, run down, too tired to do anything. I feel like I have a way to go yet, but tonight I actually feel pretty good! I had more energy than usual when I got home from work, did some cleaning, made myself dinner and I feel a bit tired but not like I was hit by a bus tired. some of this pain is starting to subside. I just don't need him to derail me.
thanks again for all your wonderful advice and please let me know how I can find that article. Thank you!

My apologies for posting w/my hat on ladies...
Here is the First 100 Days and it's located on my website right underneath the red lettering regarding if you're in a crisis situation and underneath the Awakening & Comes the Dawn.
Let me just do it this way: http://cl-wishful78.tripod.com/First100Days.htm
Thank you so much! I was able to 'get there' with your link. Many thanks!
Hi
i'm so happy to hear that you've left your abusive relationship. How are you doing?
I know its hard but hang in there, you're strong and you will get through all this. Just keep posting on the board.