friend still believes he is decent

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Registered: 12-20-2005
friend still believes he is decent
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Mon, 10-23-2006 - 11:41am

I am so bewildered by a friend, she said to me that she still thinks he is a decent man underneath all of his insecurities. She sees the good in him.

This totally confuses me. She even spoke with him two weeks ago and thinks that i might want to give him a chance.

Why? Any advice?

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Registered: 05-19-2006
Mon, 10-23-2006 - 12:15pm

This I would say is common. I don't know if I mentioned before but there is 10 types of abusers. There is one type that is so two-faced I guess you could call it. They are so mean and bitter when they are around family but as soon as they are around other people they act so nice and friendly and seem like the very best husband ever. You aren't alone here and it is very hard to deal with abusers like this. Nobody believes that he would act like that because they never even see him get angry. You need to believe yourself and trust your instincts.

The reason your friend sees the good in him still is because she has not seen any of the bad. I am positive she would change her mind if she knew or seen some of the bad things that he has done to you.

Lauren

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