frustrated/just venting...

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Registered: 01-10-2005
frustrated/just venting...
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Mon, 08-14-2006 - 12:56am

So the EPO ran out friday, I get to court and find out that weenie head has not been served his papers to show in court.Fine, the judge was rather upset considering we live in a very small town and there was no reason why he didnt get the papers.So he grants me a "no-contact" order. Ok, that should work until we go back to court on the 24th for the protective order. Except that they still have not served him with the no-contact order! So at the moment I have no "protection". He's actually calling and rubbing it in like the juvenile that he is, how the EPO ran out and he can call all he wants.

He's also found out that I have a male friend, nothing serious yet,but it could definately go there.I know it's not the greatest time for any kind of relationship,but I've been in a completely love-less, life-less marriage for over 10 years.I'm tired of being alone.

I bought tickets to take my two oldest girls to a concert last month,now he's telling me that I cannot go because I am not leaving HIS children with a babysitter.This from a man who won't visit with his own children on the weekends because "he is not a babysitter". So he doesn't want them,but I cannot leave them with anyone and have time for myself.How convenient for him.I am not going to surrender to his manipulation, I will go to the concert and they will stay with a sitter.He can huff and puff all he wants.

I'm sure it's going to get very ugly before it gets better, but I'm ready. Bring it on, lol I no longer feel guilt,sympathy or compassion for him. I've went from being scared and weak, to fed up and pissed off.

I read love_sick's posts and I feel for her, not long ago I surrendered to the same manipulation her abuser inflicts on her.There comes a day when you just know that you are done.You put your foot down and say enough. I hope she,and all who are in the same ugly mess find that strength soon.

Nikki

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Registered: 10-05-2004
Mon, 08-14-2006 - 10:57am
Oh brother. :P Hang in there- you can do it!
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