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Get order of protection?
| Mon, 03-20-2006 - 2:17pm |
Hi all-
I'm new to this board. Have tried other boards and my situation keeps getting worse.In the last week since I broke up with my BF of 7 yrs I have filed 4 complaints. He has damaged a car, broke my house window, harassed my mom by phone, and shown up when I was out with friends and called me awful names and started fights with other people. One of the police officers called him, and my BF told him that my BF was going to put a restraining order on ME because he was beat up and etc.... He was beat up the night I broke it off with him but I have no idea who did it. He doesn't either because he doesn't know where he was for 6 hours and woke up home in bed with a concussion. (That was the night my car was damaged) Three different poice officers said to file an order of protection. My BF never hit me or threatened me physically ever. He has always been very mean calling me names and saying "no wonder your ex left you" whenever we get in a big fight. When he is sober he is nice. He told my mom I was a sex addict and was messing around with many guys, (Not true) I didn't leave him for anyone else and I'm not involved with anyone else. (Although he's thinks I am) I feel so bad that people who had loved each other have to be in this kind of a situation. I can't believe that I still feel anything for him after all we've been through. I still remember the good times.
Should I go ahead with the order? Will it just make him want to get revenge more in other ways?? Maybe the call from the police officer will scare him into leaving me alone without it. I hate that he tells people all these rotten things about me. What do I do and how do I get through all this??? I can't do anything at all and I hurt so bad!!!
I'm new to this board. Have tried other boards and my situation keeps getting worse.In the last week since I broke up with my BF of 7 yrs I have filed 4 complaints. He has damaged a car, broke my house window, harassed my mom by phone, and shown up when I was out with friends and called me awful names and started fights with other people. One of the police officers called him, and my BF told him that my BF was going to put a restraining order on ME because he was beat up and etc.... He was beat up the night I broke it off with him but I have no idea who did it. He doesn't either because he doesn't know where he was for 6 hours and woke up home in bed with a concussion. (That was the night my car was damaged) Three different poice officers said to file an order of protection. My BF never hit me or threatened me physically ever. He has always been very mean calling me names and saying "no wonder your ex left you" whenever we get in a big fight. When he is sober he is nice. He told my mom I was a sex addict and was messing around with many guys, (Not true) I didn't leave him for anyone else and I'm not involved with anyone else. (Although he's thinks I am) I feel so bad that people who had loved each other have to be in this kind of a situation. I can't believe that I still feel anything for him after all we've been through. I still remember the good times.
Should I go ahead with the order? Will it just make him want to get revenge more in other ways?? Maybe the call from the police officer will scare him into leaving me alone without it. I hate that he tells people all these rotten things about me. What do I do and how do I get through all this??? I can't do anything at all and I hurt so bad!!!

Strong, if 3 different police officers had advised
Mama Harmony
Yes! Get the restraining order. Run, do not walk, to the courthouse. If three different police officers said this, there is something very wrong here.
See, what restraining orders do is provide you with legal recourse. It may not stop the behavior, I won't lie to you, but what it DOES do is put the legal system on notice that there is a problem, and it gives the cops more ability to arrest him than they otherwise would have had. If he is harassing your family in addition to you, he needs legal intervention, ASAP. You want the order.
Strong, (and I love your name, btw) you feel guilty because he wants you to.