getting friend to follow me

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Registered: 05-03-2004
getting friend to follow me
Thu, 08-24-2006 - 4:46am
alright...so i was beginning to feel good, went on a date with a nice guy, just "friends" but he thinks im sexy(lol) makes me laugh and i just have a fun time with him...well then i have this friend who liked the guy i went on a date with about 2 years ago and he had asked her out maybe 6 months ago and she said no...so she finds out we went out and freaks out(shes extremely immature...kind of sad actually)..then today i find out 1. she told this guy i have herpes(a total lie, like OMG) and 2. she called my stbxh and told him i was "dating" this guy and its "getting serious"(two dates and coffee...oooh serious!) so he calls me today and not knowing its him(private call on my cell) i answer and he tells me he knows i have a b/f and that hes happy for me, etc etc. then when i deny that he is my b/f and more just a friend, he says "then why did he help you move today?" hmmm how does he know this? so i get it out of him that he sent his friend over to check and see if i had anyone over and this friend saw us moving my couch and bed out of my home...so now he believes im MOVING IN with this guy, when he KNOWS that im moving out of my home because im trying to sell it and as an interior decorator by trade, i plan to do some staging of the house so it will sell faster...anyways so i tell him to leave me alone, as usual, not have ppl follow me, he can believe me or believe my friend whatever i could care less because its not his business and hung up, then called my VS worker to report him...well, tonight i realized it is my sister in laws bday on friday and so i ran to the drug store to get her a card and mail it and i see this car following me but my city isnt that big(200 000) so im not too worries until i see it is my stbxh's friend...when i pull into the drug store parking lot and he pulls in on the other side of the parking lot and just sits there with his lights on(its dark by now) and waits for me...so while im out of sight in the store i call the police and they show up and talk to him but they wont do anything as he didn't do or say anything to me (only a probation breach on stbxh's end if his friends or family try to speak to me) but they escort him home while i drive home...so i havent seen any cars outside my home and the police said theyd up the drive by's near my house tonight and watch for his car and my ex's car...but ugh im just so frustrated...my life seemed to be getting back to normal(getting a new job, movingout of this house of bad memories, new friend, moms health is back to normal, dad's cancer seems to be in remission) and then all this happens...rrr im trying not to let it get me down and thinking of the good things i have to look forward to in the next few weeks but its just so frustrating he cant just leave me alone and get on with his own life!