this is going to be fun...not

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Registered: 04-21-2004
this is going to be fun...not
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Thu, 05-06-2004 - 7:59am
Talked with 18yo son yesterday. He wants to move home, wants to sit down and talk with Dad and tell him why he left (it really has nothing to do with cleaning his room as his Dad insists). He wants to be home for Mother's Day, he is such a sweet kid.

So DS called Grandma and Grandpa (H's parents) wants them here for support. So they called hubby, to arrange a meeting Friday at 6 with all of us. Immediately hubby goes on the defensive about how he's not going to sit there and be told what to do and how to do it by a group of people (he's not stupid). Finally, got hubby calmed down enough to agree to this meeting. And his parents will be there to witness what goes down at the same time.

They were absolutely put off by hubby's delay in agreeing to this meeting, they think it's a good idea.

One thing I don't know if I've said ever, H's dad was abusive to him as a child, his mom and dad divorced and she is remarried to a WONDERFUL man. She sees his fathers' behaviors in him, and has said to me. "I should have had both my sons neutered so noone else would have to go through this". I have not told her my plans, just talked with her about this current situation. Although, she has said, I need to kick him out, and file a RO and that the boys and I should stay in the house. They would help us change locks and anything else we would need to be safe. She does see things she doesn't like as well.

So PLEASE, everyone send positive thoughts and prayers my way sometime around 6pm est tomorrow.

This is going to be fun. But I will have others here who will intervene on our behalf, and they will not hesitate to call the police, or pack his bags if needed.

Lori

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Registered: 04-21-2004
Fri, 05-07-2004 - 9:28pm
Just an update.

It went well! Told son to start with an apology to throw his dad off guard, he did, he was, and it went really well after that. There was a little yelling but with hubby's mom sitting next to him, it didn't get out of line.

And he is back home for now, with promises of no more hitting and the understanding that if hubby hits son, son will call police, as it would be assault, not discipline.

Overall, very happy with the outcome for a change tonight.

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Sat, 05-08-2004 - 2:16am

I'm glad things went well.

CL-Blueliner4