Good books ?

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Registered: 03-14-2006
Good books ?
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Mon, 04-24-2006 - 12:58pm

Can you recommend some good books to help with the healing process please ?

Nicole

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Registered: 03-25-2002
Mon, 04-24-2006 - 1:35pm

I'm a book person, too. Reading books has been a great help in my recovery/healing process.

Here's my list...

"Beyond Codependency" (or Codependency No More) by Melody Beatie. After reading this book, I realized that most of my relationship "problems" stemmed from this thing called "codependency". This book helped me take ownership of what was really MY stuff to work on and seperated the BULL that the abuser feeds you.

"The Verbally Abusive Relationship" by Patricia Evans. A MUST READ. This book covers it all.... from what a verbally abusive relationship looks like versus a healthy one; to why he does that; and how to respond to the verbal abuse.

"Boundaries" by Henry Cloud. Reading this book brought soooo much healing to my spirit. This book helped me understand myself and my needs, helped me to define myself and I regained my identity. Where the other books helped me grow strong enough to leave, this book helped me grow strong enough to stay out.

All these books helped me see the many reasons why I should and could pursue life, liberty, and happiness.

And a book list would not be complete without the greatest "How To" manual ever written. THE BIBLE. My personal favorite is "The Life Recovery Bible". This version is written with life applicable footnotes. And the translation is very modern (versus the King James Version).

Good luck to you.
Loonybunny

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Registered: 01-02-2004
Mon, 04-24-2006 - 2:41pm
Why does he do that by Lundy Bancroft is my favorite. It's a question and answer type of format and it helps with the questions we all have of why we were treated like we were when he supposedly loved you.
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Registered: 01-12-2001
Tue, 04-25-2006 - 10:07am

Great list of books ladies. Read them all and not to forget all the wonderful help from you,

Luv, Sherry

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Registered: 10-05-2004
Tue, 04-25-2006 - 11:35am
My current recommendation is "The Sociopath Next Door" by Martha Stout, Ph.D. Not all abusers are sociopaths, but this is a good way of learning what to do if yours is. Also good are both "The Gift of Fear" and "Protecting the Gift" by Gavin de Becker. These are good particularly if your abuser likes to stalk.
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