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Registered: 02-28-2001
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Sun, 01-20-2013 - 9:50am

Hey y'all, it's been a while since I've seen many of you and I'm wondering how you're doing.  With all the changes (and tech glitches that accompany said changes), traffic has slowed considerably.  Of course, I think about and wonder how each and every one of you is doing, if you're safe, at peace and making progress.  The most important thing I can stress right now is that if you're still having technical issues that you communicate this to iVill via this link:  http://www.ivillage.com/contact-us.

Meanwhile, make sure your preferences are set so that newest posts will appear first.  You can find the link up on the top right of your opening page under "edit my preferences". I PROMISE it's there.

So, let me hear from you all, posters and lurkers alike.  Now that the hustle and bustle of the holidays is over, we want to hear how things went for you all.  Y'all take care and please check in.



Mama Harmony

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Registered: 12-27-2004
In reply to: geoteo
Sat, 01-26-2013 - 11:44am

That suggests that the court is listening, and the judge intends to do the best thing for the children.  It can take forever (remember Mama Harmony's story of R) but it sounds like things are moving in the right direction.  Have faith.

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Registered: 02-28-2001
Sun, 01-27-2013 - 10:58am

This ffrishinm-frashim new board format has got me leaving teeth marks in my desktop!  They have GOT to get this mess fixed! 

Jcsmom, that iS WONDERFUL news.  I'm so glad Kat and Geo chimed in (once they finally manageged to GET LOGGED IN, I feel your pain). The fact that the judge took into consideration the report from CPS and ordered THOSE TWO AND NOT  YOU to be evaluated tells us there are some pretty serious concerns about letting them have the kids unsupervised.  As an abuser, and a prideful one at that, he will probably not do well at the eval because they will ask him questions that punch his buttons. Also, they will probably drag their feet on returning the written questionnaires.  You will probably be sent a questionnaire about y'all's interactions, but they won't have you come in.  They'll compare the questionnaires,, IF they actually show up and make the appointments to have the eval done.  Sometimes this is a delaying tactic to not get it done in a timely manner. But that's okay because the judge has stopped the visitation until it's done.  Jcs, these are all GOOD things that are happening in your kids and your favor.  It may seem strange, but the judge is listening and is paying attention.  Hurray for that judge.  Just tell your truth, don't try to make anyone out to be anything they are/aren't.  This is all GOOD that happening for you and your kids.  Hang in and keep us posted.  Remember, every day that the kids don't have to deal with him, they heal and recover, and so do you.  Roll with the peace.

Mama Harmony

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Registered: 01-21-2004
Sun, 01-27-2013 - 1:27pm
Rolling with the peace. :-) I love the peace. The judge actually doesn't know that visitation has been cancelled. My attorney advised me to do this because the other party has dragged their feet on the order. A month later and we still do not have it. We cannot have our place of exchange try and follow the new order stating my oldest has a choice on whether or not he can go, if they do not have this order. He still had unsupervised visitation under the order. :/ So this is what is strange, the dragging feet, no phone calls. I will continue to 'Roll with the peace'. I love this saying :-) Thank you for the positive feedback. I appreciate this and need it because all I can see is we are still in flux. I don't know if this is the calm before the storm, or if he actually gave up.

 

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Registered: 10-10-1998
Mon, 01-28-2013 - 8:40pm

i am here. Not alot going on there and when ever I peek in I dont see anything. I hate that it is because people are having trouble logging in and posting and wish it was because life was was abuse free (sigh).

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