good thing?

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good thing?
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Tue, 10-18-2011 - 5:06pm
My son had a minor explosion last night. We were both yelling, I know yelling solves nothing, and I'm not sure what set him off and I was cranky. He called me a not so nice name and told me he didn't want to live with us anymore, last part was after I told him if he laid one finger on me I was calling the police. The good thing was he never acted like he was going to hit me and he left before things got to bad. He went for a walk and saw some friends. Another good thing was I didn't act like everything was ok when he came home and that didn't set him off like it has in the past. We talked once we were both calm.

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Tue, 10-18-2011 - 6:39pm

Sounds like growth, on both your parts, to me.

Mama Harmony

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Tue, 10-18-2011 - 9:23pm

I am not sure what his counselor is telling him to do but I have told him he can walk out of class over a girl that has been causing us a headache for a couple of years. He claims she bugs him and doesn't know when to stop and I am sure that is only part of it. I am sure some of it is one minute he is joking with you and the next he isn't and I know he also doesn't always know when to stop. But she also has things going on with her that make it harder for her to deal with E and a few people at school agree with me that with these two it is best to keep the apart as much as possible but they both are in special ed and this year there is no choice, small school, but for them to have two classes together. I told him if he has done nothing to her and has been ignoring her so that she isn't confused on if he means it when he says stop and she won't then he has my permission to walk out of class that I would rather him walk out of class then hit her. He threatened to hit her last year to her, I found out when she told my oldest who she also annoys and my oldest wanted to trip her down the stairs. I even told the school I told him this. He has been told to find an adult he trust and I told him I am sure the school with punish him but as long as he did nothing then I won't add to it. We have run into her in the store and she will say hi to him and he walks in the other direction.

I have tried to get the school guidance counselor to talk to her and explain to her that when he says stop he really means it and unfortunately he can change like a switch. I don't blame the girl because he can be hard to understand but I wish someone was convincing her to ignore him because it is best for all involved. I would try to talk to the mother but I have seen her out and am pretty sure she isn't one of those that you can talk to so instead I have convinced E to stay away from her and so far it is working. I am hoping the guidance counselor did as I asked and went to the two teachers they share and let them know if there are group assignments in class that they are not to be put together, this was a concern E brought to my attention.


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