grrrrrrrrrr - venting
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| Tue, 06-14-2005 - 1:17pm |
Just venting - again. I am retaking Part 4 of the CMA exam (like CPA, only geared towards management) for the 5th time tomorrow, and having to sign papers on refinancing my first and second mortgage into one big mortgage, and doing some debt consolidation so that in 13 years, if we make extra payments, we'll have all paid off. I've worked by butt off trying to refinance, make things better, have more spending money, etc. He's not happy unless we go out every weekend and spend $100 or more. But blames all our credit cards on me. Our house appraised for alot of money considering what I paid for it - thought all that would make him happy. Of course not! I should have expected this -it's all about him. If the attention is not solely on him - he's not happy. I'm taking some for myself now - because I've worked really hard to take this exam, but I guess it makes him feel like he's "losing control" - so he'll be a jerk the next couple of days at least. He complains about everything - I told him at lunch that if there's anything at all about this refinancing that he's not happy with - please say so now because we're not changing it. His response is "anything is better than what we have now"...This man is driving around in a 2003 Dodge Ram 4 x 4 black truck with 20,000 miles on it, lives in a $250,000 home in the country, has a 3 year old daughter that I had with him when alot of women would have told him "forget it" with his marriage history, we have at least $600 a month "free" money to do with as we please - and it's not good enough??!! I know I'm under alot of stress right now, and I need to take that into account, but good grief sometimes I feel like I remarried my ex husband and he's come back in another form. Now he just emailed me from work complaining that somebody called and verified his employment - what do you think is going to happen when you apply for a $200,000 loan??! I'm sorry I'm just venting - it does no good to say anything to him because it either just falls on deaf ears, or it's just seen as me being a witch again. And my family pushing me to take this exam - they don't care if it makes me happy or not - it's making me miserable - nobody likes to fail that much, I don't need it for my job and I get the feeling that they just want me to do it for their own security - not for my happiness....Are there any desert islands anywhere so I can go hide my head in the sand for awhile??! Sorry this is so long, I really don't have anybody else I can talk to about this.
And to top it all off some police officer at my work is "giving me the eye", and I'm not at all interested, because I'm married, and not in the mood to put up with that right now either! It's got me changing my route into this building, etc. Why was it that God created men??!
Whew - thank you - it always helps to "let things out" on a board where you know you will not be judged.....

Oh, hon.
CL-Blueliner4
Girl, vent away that's one of the reasons why we are here.
It took me a long time with my ex husband - 23 years. They are so crafty at making complete jerks of themselves, then doing things to cover their tracks...It's almost amusing sometimes - tonite's "fit" will probably be over the bank daring to call and verify his employment - do they forget they sign "loan" papers??! He's actually so conceited sometimes that he probably doesn't want anybody to know he has to get a "shhh....loan...". Like they don't have to do the same thing!
He's in a bad mood right now, too, because his 2 bosses at his work quit - branch manager and assistant director - and I told him and told him not to expect the state to immediately hire him in the position - they love to have someone do the jobs, and not pay them for it. He's still getting pissed off and moody about it - I guess he thought even though I have 20 plus years experience in state government, including working in numerous agencies, that I don't know what I'm talking about. Sorry, bubba, but I do. Probably going to end up that he's not happy with his job again - which I'm totally sick of as well.
Anyways, enough about me, hope everybody here is doing as well as can be expected and having at least something fun to do this summer! ;)