GRRRRRRRRRRRR

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Registered: 04-21-2004
GRRRRRRRRRRRR
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Sun, 06-20-2004 - 9:08pm
We went to the theme parks on Thursday and Friday last week, had a pretty good time. H finally agreed to go on the days that our oldest had off work (it was his first week of work). So we went on Thursday and Friday.

Saturday morning I found out that my aunt had died. She was like my 2nd mother. My mom passed away in December. I want to go to the memorial service, it's in Iowa, we're in Florida. But my husband says that because we just went to the theme parks, and because we had to put on the spare on the way over, we need to get new tires for the van. And because he wants to put in new flooring and a new kitchen in the house. I can't go. Don't get me wrong, we could afford it, he makes good wages, he's just being an ass. Plus I have the money left to me from my Mom, the problem there is, he doesn't know how much I have, and that is my escape money. So I'm pissed.

His Mom and step dad even tried talking to him, told him he was being selfish and inconsiderate, he says, no she is!!

just GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

Lori

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Registered: 06-15-2004
In reply to: jljz
Mon, 06-21-2004 - 1:22am
If you go, the kitchen floor will still be there when you get back.

I'm so sorry you have to go through such a loss. I've never lost a loved one who was close to me, and when that day comes I don't know how it will hurt me. But I'm sure it will come before any other tasks I have planned at the time.

I hope things get brighter soon.

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Registered: 06-26-2003
In reply to: jljz
Mon, 06-21-2004 - 10:45pm
You don't need his permission to go to your aunt's funeral. Just up and go. And don't spend your mother's money, she would have wanted that to be yours alone. Use the money that you should be using, which is your joint funds. Family comes before remodelling.

My husband (soon-to-be-ex-husband) pulled the same thing when my beloved aunt died. "We can't afford for you to go at this time." Why do people get off on this level of cruelty? And I work full time and make good money! I went anyway, and I will be grateful for the rest of my life that I did not miss that service. It was about 15 years ago and I remember it vividly to this day, that's how much it meant to me to gather with my relatives and reminisce about my aunt. If you don't go, you will regret it for a very long time.