Guns, violence and abuse don't mix
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| Thu, 05-26-2005 - 8:44am |
Another thing I want to mention as to what made me draw the line too. I've been soooo depressed for the past few months that it TOTALLY slipped my mind that my now ex-fiance had a loaded gun in our home! I completely forgot until he pulled it out the night before I left him and started talking about how he was going crazy and didn't know what he might do! He never pointed it at me, but he would sit down on the bed or anywhere near me (because he knew I hate guns) and start loading and unloading the bullets in front of me, while in PURE SILENCE. As though he was trying to still intimidate and scare the H*** out of me.
So I just want to remind those of you in a similar situation, that I never thought he would try to harm me but he had now resorted to physical violence after 8 years and was now waving his gun around the place to scare me and it WORKED!!!! If you are with someone who even hints at this sort of thing, Leave because I never thought it would "get that bad" but it did, just thank God I'm still here to tell it.

Hi MSAndrews1: Yes they sure are good at the intimidation game. Just in the past couple of weeks my husband has threatened to put a huge knife through me, throw me over a bridge and just plain kill me and all the while telling me he is going crazy (and I am the cause). Thank God he does not own a gun!
On the day that my husband threatened me with the knife, just after he put it back in the drawer my daughter came down to see if I was alright because she heard him ranting at me. As soon as he saw her, his threatening tone changed completely and he started telling her how sorry he was that she felt she had to worry about me and that he would never hurt me! What a hypocrite!
Its wonderful to know that you managed to get out. He deserves to be alone. But I can fully understand your range of emotions now because I am still in the planning stage of leaving my husband for good - just taking care that my children are not going to suffer more than is necessary when I do. And I am already feeling the same stuff that you have described. I have been married to him for almost 27 years. I can tell you they never improve, only get worse. The more you show them you will put up with, the more they will try. Thank God you are out of there!!! You won’t regret it.