*** Happy 2 Year Anniversary to Me! ***

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*** Happy 2 Year Anniversary to Me! ***
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Tue, 07-13-2004 - 3:22pm
I haven't posted here in ages, but I wanted to pop by and congratulate myself on two years of freedom. (The old me would never be so shamelessly self-promoting...my how we change!)

It has been two years since I left my three-year marriage. The ex is gone, though I heard from him recently. He is 1000 miles away and still a basket case. I hope not to hear from him again. He was asking for help and I didn't give it.

I am me again. Well, I could improve myself a lot, but I'm still a version of me, anyhow! I'm doing well at work and I hardly think about the abuse anymore. When I do, sometimes it still bothers me. Sometimes I feel like there is something about me that most people won't understand. Mostly, I feel like I have a great perspective on life and nothing will ever get me down because I've survived a lot already.

I'm looking to move into a new place with a wonderful man I've been dating for almost a year. I plan to go back to school next year and finish my BA, finally! I'm hoping for kids soon.

Good luck to everyone!!

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Tue, 07-13-2004 - 3:29pm

CHAO!

CL-Blueliner4

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Tue, 07-13-2004 - 3:36pm
Congratulations!!!!!!
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Tue, 07-13-2004 - 6:57pm
Chao, you are positively radiating happiness! Thank you for coming back and sharing all that is going so well for you. I hope that Mindspeak, Jeepster and Mizlizzy see this.

Hugs!

Christine

Outside ideas of right doing and wrong doing, there is a field. I will meet you there. -- Rumi
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Wed, 07-14-2004 - 8:33am
Spellbreaker, I have to respectfully disagree with you.

I think it's a *huge* step for Chaotican to be in a place where she is able to trust this guy enough to move in with him. Marriage is a whole different ballgame, and maybe she's just not ready for that yet. If that is the case, I see no problem with her current situation.

Personally, I am now living with my BF of approximately one year. I have known him for about six years now, and he is a *wonderful* person, and nothing at all like my abusive XH. It is *my choice* not to be married at this point in time. I have a lot of self-respect, and my BF respects me *very* much, even though we are not yet married. We both agree that we will eventually marry, but not until we are *both* ready. Both of us were married before, and it was not a great situation for either of us. So, we made the decision to live together first, in order to really get to know each other and get a feeling of what it would be like *before* we made that final commitment to each other.

Chaotican, congratulations! I'm very proud to hear how far you've come, and good luck to you with your new relationship!

Love & Hugs,

Emm

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Thu, 07-15-2004 - 12:37am


~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~* Happy 2 Year Freedom Anniversary Chaotican!! *~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~


Whooooooooohooooooooooooooo!!!





It is SO awesome to hear this update, and to share in your healing journey! I just happened to log on, saw this, and did a *live* WHOOOOOOOOOOOHOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!

(Then, an OMG, has it been 2 years??!! :) LOL!

Bless your sweet, dear, precious heart........and thank you, for posting this! It is beyond important for all of us to hear how everyone is doing, especially those who have *passed through* and don't have the *need* to post as regularly as *once upon a time*....to hear how your life is progressing, to hear and share in your happiness, and to continue to extend sincere deepest wishes for continued healing and happiness in your life, as you continually move forward, day by day, step by step.

We ALL learn from each other, daily, whether posting daily, when we can, or just whenever. I sure miss being able to reply daily, but, am grateful to all who continue to share and care about this issue that touches us all... SO deeply, for a lifetime, no matter where we each may be in our own personal journey.

Chaotican, please, stay in touch as you can, and KNOW you touched my life deeply, more than you may realize. I thank you for that, along with thanking you for all you have shared with this board and the members (in chat too), through your personal issues, along with all of ours.

Sincerest, deepest, best wishes for all the best for you!!

With Love, and HUGS!!!! (Giggling, recalling the *HUGS* thing ;)

Hugging ya again anyway!! LOL!

May you enjoy a lifetime of HUGS, happiness, and all you want and deserve!




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Thu, 07-15-2004 - 6:01pm

Hi Spellbreaker and welcome

CL-Blueliner4

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Thu, 07-15-2004 - 9:41pm
I agree!

When someone shows you who they are, believe them.

- Maya Angelou

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Thu, 07-15-2004 - 10:44pm
You sound rather abusive yourself you know, isn't having to have the last word the trademark? Like I said when I signed off, not to worry, I'm not into the whining. Who's the abusive one?
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Fri, 07-16-2004 - 8:33am
Ciao Chao!!!! Congratulations gurl!!! And may many more years of happiness and freedom be at your front door!

You've gone through so much and have paid such a price for this day, I pray that only good finds you from here to forever freedom!!:)

Huge Blue Furry Hugs!!!

ps,,don't be such a stranger girl!! :)

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Fri, 07-16-2004 - 10:39am
Spellbreaker,

I apologize if I offended your beliefs with my previous post. However, I stand behind that post, and the posts of everyone else in this thread who expressed a different opinion from yours. As Sweetdreams so *intelligently* pointed out, you are entitled to your opinion, as is everyone else. (And that is absolutely *no* reflection on anyone's level of intelligence or lack thereof!)

~Emm

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