hard to sleep

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Registered: 07-08-2004
hard to sleep
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Sat, 07-24-2004 - 1:29am
Hi to everyone and I pray that all is going well. I am having a hard night sleeping. My husband told me tonight that he was offered the position overseas, with a lot of benefits and a better pay than he had expected. The sadness i feel about this is so hard to describe. It's overwehlming. I asked him before to Please Please think of all consequences of moving. Family (his and mine that live here), schools, enviornment -everything. Before he knew that he would be hired he seemed to be completely in favor of moving, but now that he has the offer he is wavering. I pray that we do not move. I don't want this..our relationship is so much better here. He treats me so much different when we are there. I'm so scared that we will move. All I can think to do is pray that he chooses for us not to move. He said that it's partly my decision, but i know that he is just saying this and he is not serious. Like every other decision, if my opinion differs from his -he has it his way and if i think the way he does he acts as if it is my idea to make me feel as if he is letting me get to make the decision. im just so scared.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: ahmeds_wife
Sat, 07-24-2004 - 7:20pm

Oh, I’m so sorry that it has come to this.

When someone shows you who they are, believe them.

- Maya Angelou

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Registered: 07-08-2004
In reply to: ahmeds_wife
Sun, 07-25-2004 - 12:49am
oh Sweetdreams thank you SO much for your prayers. Early this morning after prayer he told me that he only wants the best for us no matter if it is here or there. I hope he means this and i want so badly to believe him. Later today though he put more restrictions on me and i feel as if at some point i will not be allowed to go anywhere. On Saturday's, I take our oldest son to pratice and he called to tell me he would be coming home to do this. When i asked him why he said that i am no longer allowed to go because of the way i talk to his coach. The coach called the other day because practice was being changed and i talked to him for almost 10 minutes but truly they were all things dealing with the team and helping out with a fundraiser he would like to have soon. I told him that i would help with making a raffle basket and things like that but now because of our long conversation this is why i am not allowed to go. Submission to my husband is out of love and knowing that his decisions will always be in our best interests but things like this make me question his motives and intentions but what can i do?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: ahmeds_wife
Sun, 07-25-2004 - 11:45am
Hi ahmeds_wife...I'm very afraid for you with this man.

When someone shows you who they are, believe them.

- Maya Angelou