Has the game changed?
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| Sat, 06-19-2004 - 10:23pm |
Go to the seminar. He went mountain biking with a friend. Son was at cousins. At 2:15 my son calls, says he has to be picked up by 3 and dad doesn't answer his phone. I said I'd be there as soon as I could, if they had to leave, wait outside, I was on my way. 10 minutes later he calls back and says Uncle got home and gave him a ride home, dad was here, but outside. I spoke with dh, said I was going to stay and have lunch with sil then visit a few of the shops. He says OK. (????)
Get home, decide to go to restaurant that dd works at, he says ok (not something he usually does), on the way to dinner I comment about being tired. He said, "you did a lot today and were up early. You need to do things for yourself. It's good for you. You don't do that very often." Whats up with that?? Normally he'd be saying 'what took you so long?' And pouting or sulking until I apologize and go sit with him.
Just when I think I'm ready to go, he does this. GO figure. I know, this probably isn't permanent, it is probably just another way to keep me hanging on a while longer.
This is the nice guy that I'd would like to have around - but you know what - I still am turned off by him. He put his hand on my leg while I was driving to dinner and it sent chills through me. It's as I have said before - his hugs and his attention towards me are not for me, they are for him. They are to make him feel better. It isn't for me.
Ok, so tell me - change in the game plans - right? Another tactic to hook me for a bit longer. time will prove that to me.

Could be tactic to make you hold on longer.
Peace and hugs,
Cheryl =)
The minute you settle for less than you
Cheryl is right. There will always be good times mixed in with the bad. That is what makes everything so frustrating. You can never walk into your own door knowing what to expect. You should be able to walk through the door of your home without anticipating how you will need to act. I remember coming home from work every day, driving down the lane to my house worried about what I would find there. What crisis happened while I was gone. If Wendell wasn't taking Joe to some wrestling thing, he would be sitting there waiting for me. Never ask how my day was. In fact I could have been having a torrid affair for 8 hours each day and he would have never known...gee, see what I missed? All I knew was that if he was there smiling, he wanted something that evening. The choice is yours.
Terry
Something I read said that being nice isn't a sign of change. They can be as nice as anyone, but if the underlying attitudes and beliefs don't change, there will come a time when nice turns ugly.
I have a two year plan here... and I will get finacially independent of him
dd
Be wary of the good things because there will always be hidden meanings or even a hidden agenda behind them.