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Fri, 10-14-2005 - 1:21am

My husband and I have been arguing some lately and he can be really mean and so can I. We call each other really bad names and yell at each other. Both me and my husband were abused growing up and I'm wondering if that might have an effect on our relationship. I would appreciate any responses.

Susan

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Registered: 09-28-2005
Fri, 10-14-2005 - 2:20am
Hi Susan,
The way you were raised does have an effect on who you are and how you interact with other people. There is a fine art of fighting fair with definite guidelines and rules that both parties agree on and use. If you google "fighting fair" you will come across some resources. There are also quite a few books on the subject. If this doesn't work, then counselling might be in order. Good for you with recognizing the situation.
Good Luck
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Fri, 10-14-2005 - 1:37pm

Thank you very much for the advice and I will take your suggestion and look up "fighting fair on Google. I really do appreciate the response.

Susan

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Registered: 09-29-2005
Fri, 10-14-2005 - 7:26pm
Welcome, Susan.