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having a bad day
| Wed, 04-14-2004 - 9:44am |
Well i was woke up this morning with a phone call. It was my XH "GIRLFRIEND". I didnt even know he had a girlfriend. She blasted me telling me that i was lying, xh would never hit me. That i should fess up and tell the truth. that she knows that i am making all of this up. Why would he need to come over and see me when he has her whenever he wants her. Can you believe this b!tch. I guess i put all of these bruises on myself, and i broke my arm, and i broke my ribs. She also said that they have been living together for almost 6 months. I really didnt say much to her, she did all of the talking. She said that she thinks im doing this to try to get him back. I have been trying to get rid of him for almost 12 years, why would i want him back, i hate him, i hate it when he touches me, i hate the very sound of his voice, i hate everything about him. i probably should have just hung up, but i think i was in shock. First that he has a girlfriend that is living with him, but i really couldnt believe what she was saying. If she really knew him she would not be with him. I wanted to warn her, tell her that all was great when i first met my xh. He treated me like a queen, put me up on a pedistal, and im sure that is how he is with her, but in time the true monster will come out and she will be sorry. but then i thought, if he gets infactuated with her then he just might leave me alone. Is that bad? i really would not ever wish the things that i have been through on anyone, but i want it to end also. Should i try to warn her, maybe meet with her so that she can see what he is capable of? Or should i just let it be? she ended the call by telling me that i need to move on, and realize that my xh is with her now. What would yall do?

I would block her number. That is harrassment and she shouldn't be calling you. Sounds like she is the one who needs to move on. Forget about what happened w/ you two and focus on herself and their life. Let her be.
Take care of yourself.
mel
Well hun, first off, she was harassing you.
First, I'm glad to see that you are feeling better these days. Second, I'd have to agree with Mel and Wishful....your ex's gf is on her own path, and it is no concern of yours. She already knows what he has done to you and chooses NOT to believe it. So be it. You cannot convince her or change her mind to see otherwise. Honestly? I don't there is ANYTHING wrong with hoping he fixates on her....I mean, I DO NOT want to see any woman hurt in an abusive relationship....but, in this case, it might help you. She already has the red flags going up, but her blinders are on.
Continue your own healing path. If she calls again, tell her that any further phone calls will result in harrassment charges against her and hang up immediately!! AND THEN, follow through if she persists.
Good luck...and BIG HUGS
dharma
Van, if there is any type of RO in place, call the police and tell them that you are getting third party harrassment from your XH.
CL-Blueliner4
Can i really do that, i do have a restraining order, and he is in jail now for violating it. I dont know if he knows that she called or not.
Call the cops and find out.
CL-Blueliner4
I called the police and they said that it is 3rd party contact. They were glad i called, and for me to call anytime i get phone calls concerning my situation that makes me uncomfortable or uneasy. The officer gave me his number and told me to call him direct.
Thanks for your advice. This is the first police officer that i have spoken to that treated me like i wasnt a bother. I will definately call him if I receive any harassing phone calls. Thanks Blue!!