Having reservations ... i think ...

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Having reservations ... i think ...
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Sun, 04-17-2005 - 2:19pm

Most of you know my situation w/ my STBX & the fact that at thsi point i have "temporary sole custoday" & STBX has supervised visitation. At this point, in order for my dd to see him at all, i have been just meeting him at the park w/ dd, while i stay on the outskirts while they play, b/c he refuses to do supervised visitation.

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Registered: 06-03-2003
Sun, 04-17-2005 - 4:25pm

I understand you getting cold feet and I don't blame you one bit for resenting his getting anything. My ex never wanted to work either and only did so because the benefits agency forced him to.

Deep down, you know why you're doing these things. you've already mentioned that you documented various incidents. Why don't you reread that documentation, and your previous posts on this board. That should remind you.

My feeling is he's only behaving because the courts are watching, and to protect his settlement. Abusers don't change overnight. He hasn't either, not if he won't even admit he's in the wrong.

Take a deep breath, keep going and remember - one day, this will all be sorted and you will truly be able to move on.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Sun, 04-17-2005 - 6:33pm
Yes, I am pretty sure he is on his best behavior for a reason ... & its NOT b/c he is "cured" or he is doing whats best for his child. I will continue to fight the good fight! ThanKS!

R~

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Registered: 06-03-2003
Mon, 04-18-2005 - 4:55pm
You're welcome. Keep going. You know you can do it.