He called...

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Registered: 11-07-2003
He called...
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Sat, 04-03-2004 - 8:51am
I should have hung up right away, but I thought he just wanted to double check on the last of the things his dad would be picking up today. Instead, he said that I'd dissed him by breaking our engagement and that I'd been harrassing him. I haven't talked to him since he came to pick up his belongings. He says he has a bunch of messages that came from my number that were obnoxious. I have no idea who would have done that. I have no desire to be ugly toward him. I just want this over with. I guess all he could really do is get an RO against me which would be fine by me. He can go ahead, but why would he accuse me of something that I have not done. And why go from wanting to be all sweet to me two weeks ago when he came to get his clothes to being a total monster? I guess that's just the cycle again. He said he's going to fight the criminal charges I've brough against him by showing the bite mark I left on his arm. Well, it was either bite him or get thrown down a set of cement steps and I have witnesses to say that. Then he said he wanted to do this all civilly and that I was being obnoxious. How did he turn it around like that. All I did was sit there with my mouth open. I couldn't believe that he could really believe what he was saying. Then I said that I didn't f--- up our relationship...he did. And he said he didn't f--- anything up. Oh, he is so screwed up. Then he said he wasn't going to discuss this right now and that I should call him later. As if...And he hung up. Sorry, that all this is a little jumbled. I guess I knew nothing would ever change. I just kept hoping he could at least be decent while we put the finishing touches on our relationship. I guess I hoped for too much. And he's taking his cat back. It's his cat, but I love him and I'm so worried Sean will get drunk or high, not come home and forget to feed poor Cat. But, he has proof the cat is his, so I can't really fight it. I seriously don't know how I will ever be able to open myself up to anyone again. This has been so confusing. I'm still confused.

And I had a date last night. Well, meaning friends trying to help me move on...I had to go from crying to pretty. I had a nice time. The guy was shy and nice. We just talked and had dinner and a couple of drinks. But, boy was I not in the mood for that after the tirade from Sean. Actually I guess it got my mind off things to have a good looking guy to look at and talk to. Doubt I'll do that again anytime soon. I am so not ready...just out with my girlfriends from now on.

Sorry that post was so mixed up, but I'm mixed up, so... Thanks for listening.

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Registered: 11-12-2003
In reply to: pepomntpat
Sat, 04-03-2004 - 10:18am

What a doofus.


I forget, do you have an RO?

CL-Blueliner4

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Registered: 11-07-2003
In reply to: pepomntpat
Sat, 04-03-2004 - 2:50pm
I guess I should call the police...oh I hate to do that. Yuck. I just want this all to be over and done with. Police mean more court and more questions and a lot more pain.

Jen

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Registered: 01-26-2004
In reply to: pepomntpat
Sat, 04-03-2004 - 6:40pm
Jen,

Please take care of yourself. He knows that he is NOT supposed to be calling you and yet he is. He is testing you by calling...to see if you will enforce the RO...to try to control you in that way. Can you see that too? Can you remember why you got the RO in the first place? Please dont let him win against you. You can do this and you are a strong person. I know it must be horrible to have to call the police again but please keep yourself safe. Huge hugs and I am thinking of you.

Ree

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Registered: 11-12-2003
In reply to: pepomntpat
Sat, 04-03-2004 - 7:26pm

Jen, you have to remember that there is an RO in place for a reason - he broke the law.

CL-Blueliner4

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Registered: 11-07-2003
In reply to: pepomntpat
Sun, 04-04-2004 - 10:17am
Thank you for the advice. I will call and report this today. I even still have his number on the caller ID.

Jen