He did it again.
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| Tue, 04-06-2004 - 2:07pm |
Now my children are in this as well. How or what do I do to get the guts to leave? My babies are being affected by all this. They are more rebellious than ever. I am calling a counseling center today to see if we can get counseling. My kids really do need it.
I pray everyday that God give me the strength and courage that I need to leave this fool. Sometimes I feel like I'm too scared and I know I should do it for my kids, because they're everything to me. I love them too much to let this continue but I ask again how do I do it?
I feel like I'm in this dark hole and don't know why, if I see the damage he's doing, I don't have the guts to leave. I'm a very strong person but when it comes to this, I chicken out. I know that after I do it it'll be okay, but I need that certain push to it. Help, I feel trapped.

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mel
Honey, he's hitting your kids for being kids and your oldest is hiding knives in his room.
CL-Blueliner4
I truly do think I need counseling so that I can get out of there. And although my H does all this my kids love him so much and would be devasted if I leave.
But he continues being abusive. Sometimes I just wish he would disappear, so I wouldn't have to be the one to leave.
Please keep me in your prayers and thoughts, that's what I need most right now.
And I do have places to go. My mom's or aunt's, friends have offered and so have cousin's. That's not even the issue. It's the having enough guts to just go and never come back to this abusive relationship.
Sometimes I feel so stupid because I can't leave but I know the day will come when I get the courage to do just that. I have faith in that.
You can't just wait for the day to come. You have to decide "THIS IS IT". You said you just needed a push in the right directions. Your son gave you a big shove! Listen to your kids, listen to your family and most importantly... listen to your heart. You know what you need to do. Waiting for the time to be 'right' can take a lifetime and every minute that your kids endure this is damaging them. The sooner you move yourself and your kids into a new life, the sooner you all can start to heal.
Blueliner asked me to stop by and give you my story.
And I think my son has more hate towards him than fear.
I really do appreciate everyone's words and stories. They just make me a little stronger and more knowledgeable each time and I know the time will come soon to leave him.
I guess deep inside I've always known of this abuse but kept saying to myself that it would stop. And sometimes I just wish that he would beat me up, not my kids, one more time so that I can have the guts to leave. Because when his time of sweetness comes around it's harder to leave. I'm waiting for that day to come when I make the decision to leave. I know it's soon but I'm awful with timelines so I cannot say when.
Thanks for your hugs.
Listen, all your kids need to do is tell the teacher what's going on, and then your kids will be taken away from you. If you don't have the guts to get out, then at least do the right thing and send your kids somewhere. If you love them, and want to protect them, call child protection and tell them you can't leave and to get your kids out of there.
OMG...your poor son. He's going to have problems for the rest of his life if you don't do something now. Trust me, mine is 8, and I've been out of it for a year and a half and he's still in therapy.
Sarah
Paul, at 16, hates his father with a passion equal to the hatred he received from his old man.